I Have No One To Talk Too
I'm very sad.. I'm not alone but no one to talk to about what I feel.. I wanna explode my feelings but I can't cos no one will listen and he won't listen to me....
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bluelonelyheart · 31-35, F
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me
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@bluelonelyheart Then like i said, you need to have this discussion as parents. Better to address it now than create a larger rift in the future.
bluelonelyheart · 31-35, F
@Gh0s1 I hope he is the type of guy who listens to me... But no he is not.... Everytime I'm making a serious talk wd him he doesn't take me seriously he would make a joke.... That's why I always feel hurt... Even I say to him something that bothers me it's like I'm just talking to an air... Compared to you, you really listened to me... Thanks for this at least someone heard my voice...
@bluelonelyheart Then this is also something you need to discuss with him, just lay it all out on the table and if you need to press the issue then tell him it's not acceptable for that behaviour when you're in a 2 way relationship, it's in the child's best interest.
Just stay calm, and if he doesn't want to listen you're going to have to tell him he's going to have to, no other way about it.
If he's unwilling to change and is disrespectful then the rest is up to you but be assertive. Like if he walks away and makes a joke then you say "No no no no, this isn't about you, sit down and talk to me" like a mother would to a child almost, so not aggressive but you need to learn to assert yourself. I'm afraid he's going to have to be a responsible person in this case and part of that is listening to the mother of his child.
Just stay calm, and if he doesn't want to listen you're going to have to tell him he's going to have to, no other way about it.
If he's unwilling to change and is disrespectful then the rest is up to you but be assertive. Like if he walks away and makes a joke then you say "No no no no, this isn't about you, sit down and talk to me" like a mother would to a child almost, so not aggressive but you need to learn to assert yourself. I'm afraid he's going to have to be a responsible person in this case and part of that is listening to the mother of his child.
sugarPaul · 46-50, M
I don’t have kids so I can’t say a lot but I a agree with the last comment on making decisions that cause less stress on yourself.. (aslong as the decision won’t cause resentment)....
You need to enjoy the next few years and you can only do that with as little pressure as possible .
You need to enjoy the next few years and you can only do that with as little pressure as possible .
SW-User
There is nothing wrong with the old fashioned way of sterilising
bottles
but do something that would make your life easier
you have a lot of stress
bottles
but do something that would make your life easier
you have a lot of stress
bluelonelyheart · 31-35, F
@SW-User yes nothing wrong but for him if we used that our baby will die... Seriously no one died cos of that... And he would blame me if our child gets sick
waynekerr · 51-55, M
I'll listen... I feel the same way much of the time.
bluelonelyheart · 31-35, F
@waynekerr
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me
waynekerr · 51-55, M
Sorry, never had kids, wouldn't have a clue what is best. If I were you, I'd get expert advice. Someone whose knowledge both of you would respect.
Lostpoet · M
@bluelonelyheart
Yeah thats rediculous lol. If you put a bottle in boiling water it'll sterilize just as good as anything else, and you know it's getting done right. It might be a UK thing because I don't know anyone that sterilizes anything here in the US.
Yeah thats rediculous lol. If you put a bottle in boiling water it'll sterilize just as good as anything else, and you know it's getting done right. It might be a UK thing because I don't know anyone that sterilizes anything here in the US.
You can talk to me if you want.
bluelonelyheart · 31-35, F
@canusernamebemyusername
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me.. Im so tired of this.... I'm pregnant but I can't even cry out to him..... Cos he is the reason....
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me.. Im so tired of this.... I'm pregnant but I can't even cry out to him..... Cos he is the reason....
bluelonelyheart · 31-35, F
@canusernamebemyusername share your thoughts on this pls....
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me
If the pot is copper it is possible to get copper poisoning. But not steel, iron or aluminum. So just make sure it is not that on the inside. Some pots have copper on the bottom but those are safe. Also if you boil them it will Def kill the germs.
jaymic64 · M
It’s unfortunate to live like that. I live the same way and it’s frustrating.
Killroy59 · 61-69, M
I have time to listen if you care to chat ?
bluelonelyheart · 31-35, F
@Killroy59
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me
I am pissed off with my hubby I said let's not buy baby sterilizer let's just do the old way sterilizing baby bottles in a big pot with boiling water which ofc the very traditional he said no so many died cos of that I said show me your prove that many died cos of that, I said it's not about what u will use that the child will die its about if you cleaned the baby bottles efficiently.... Cos even u buy electric sterilizer u will still clean the bottles.he can't show any prove that someone died cos of sterilizing in a big pot....pls react on this.... I mean comment your thoughts.... I wanna cry cos I'm sure in the future if my baby get sick due to any reason he would blamed it on me
Sujeet · 31-35, M
I messaged you