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I Hate Manipulative People

I always disliked manipulative people, mainly because they are very selfish. I just cannot connect with them, even if they are not trying to manipulate me at that moment.

But I also recently had a small epiphany. I realised how incredibly easy it is to manipulate people. I was at a meeting, and I had an almost out of body experience. I felt like I was watching the whole meeting completely objectively, because it was a very aggressive meeting, but I did not feel it that way. I saw how everybody was completely absorbed into their own thoughts, mainly unaware of themselves. And I could just feel how vulnerable were they to manipulation. And I tried that power, and I could just lead the whole group into whatever my motivation was.

I really felt like a sociopath, since I could feel the enormous power and ease of manipulation. I can understand why this so addictive. If you ever feel this way, please be careful. It feels good, but everybody hates you. Is it worth it?
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revenant · F
that is an interesting observation. I see it and observe it but i cannot bring myself use people as toys or objects.
sumojumo · 36-40, M
@revenant that is because you have the most wonderful thing we posess - empathy. Imagine if you did not have it, the sky is the limit. And currently, lack of empathy is considered a competitive advantage, i.e. the less you have, easier it is for you to succeed. Maybe I overgeneralize a bit, but on average I think it is true.
revenant · F
@sumojumo we live in an inverted world indeed.
sumojumo · 36-40, M
@revenant but I am not willing to fall into pessimism. I have seen so many wonderful, emphatic people. We are the majority, we are just a bit too passive. We need to become passionate and almost evangelical :) about our humanism. This will empower other such people not to feel weak if they feel other peoples need. And being nice must become a synonim for a brave person.

Sorry, i went off the rails a little bit :D.