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I Hate Manipulative People

I always disliked manipulative people, mainly because they are very selfish. I just cannot connect with them, even if they are not trying to manipulate me at that moment.

But I also recently had a small epiphany. I realised how incredibly easy it is to manipulate people. I was at a meeting, and I had an almost out of body experience. I felt like I was watching the whole meeting completely objectively, because it was a very aggressive meeting, but I did not feel it that way. I saw how everybody was completely absorbed into their own thoughts, mainly unaware of themselves. And I could just feel how vulnerable were they to manipulation. And I tried that power, and I could just lead the whole group into whatever my motivation was.

I really felt like a sociopath, since I could feel the enormous power and ease of manipulation. I can understand why this so addictive. If you ever feel this way, please be careful. It feels good, but everybody hates you. Is it worth it?
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TeresaRudolph71 · 51-55, F
That's very interesting. No, it really isn't worth it. It's not worth all the anger that you leave people with. I've heard that narcissists who manipulate a lot of people tend to move a lot, and change jobs often too, (if they manipulate their coworkers), for the same reason that predatory animals are always on the move. They eventually run out of prey where they are and have to move on to new territory.

I suppose this could be addicting, but I would think that this would become exhausting after a while, and I personally feel that it's much more deeply satisfying to have deep, genuine connections with people. Because if you never show anyone who you really are, then you can never gain acceptance of your true self. Because all people fall in love with is the facade that the manipulator presents to people. If this goes on for long enough, what happens to your true self?

Those are my thoughts on the subject.
sumojumo · 36-40, M
@TeresaRudolph71 very nicely put, thank you for the comment