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I Don't Know

I got my explanation. Part of me understood. 18, you can do anything you want with your life, throw caution to the wind and go nuts. Another part of me says, [i]you talked to that person online for [b]two months[/b] and now you want to[/i] live [i]with them?[/i]...idiot.
Then there's that judgy, dark part of myself that's absolutely disgusted. It's this running theme again: she wants parents. *sigh* Kid, you've gone your whole childhood with lousy parents and people who couldn't play the role you wanted them to. You're an adult now. It's too late. Running off to live with people you don't really know who want to play house with you...I am disgusted and creeped out by people who play surrogate online. "I'm talking to my online mom," she's said before. "My online dad says" blah blah blah... It's sad and disturbing to me. I hope she doesn't end up dead. Really, who even [i]are[/i] these people?
I'm worried, but I'm telling myself she's 18 and she can make her own decisions and mistakes. I can't see how this can ever be a good thing. What do you need a [i]mommy and daddy[/i] for? Grow up. These people have your best interest at heart? Do you even care? Maybe it's like she said "I don't want to think. I need someone to tell me what to do."
elVato · 46-50, M
"I don't want to think. I need someone to tell me what to do."

Military may be an option.
Tends to mature the childishness,
or push them over the edge.
SW-User
She can't. She's got a history of anxiety-related issues and therapy. They wouldn't let her in.
doctorlove · M
... and mayhap she creates these plans to hold [i]your [/i]attention?
SW-User
Maybe. She could also be really hurting and handling it an incredibly stupid way. She wants the type of attention these people give her, but what are their intentions?
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Your young friend is playing a very dangerous game. If she is able and willing to read, refer her to this online article from LA Weekly:
The Life and Death of Jesse James
by Josh Olson.

It's tough to watch a young person who is living a fantasy life.
SW-User
Finished the article. It's crazy the there are people doing this all the time. Catfishing? It's not the worst case scenario I picture. I really wish she'd been smarter about this. There are people who prey on those like the woman in the story and my sister like they can smell the needs. I hate that. And I'm being a brat, but at the moment, I kind of hate her too.
Sssslm · F
does she have friends that you have contact with? do not blame, explain her situation, your worries and difficulties.
SW-User
We've talked to people we knew who she added on facebook. She didn't tell them anything either. Friends, people from her old church (she stopped going), former classmates. Nobody knows the people she took off with or where they went.
They'll live and learn

 
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