I Changed My Life By Changing My Mind
Todays story is going to be about perspective.
If you were to ever meet me in person, you'd probably question my zest for life, my seemingly constant happiness. I get asked alot "how do you put on such a happy face and bright attitude when your in a shitty mood" These people are most likely refferring to my attitude towards daily struggles (work, cleaning, bills ect) So today, i thought i'd tell you my deepest secret key to happiness. This one trick will save you internally, it will heal you mentally and completely change your life. Before reading on please please PLEASE make sure you are prepared to receive information that can ultimatately result in mood changes, major new life decisions and revaluation of old decisions.
This one, tiny secret, is what stopped me from pulling that trigger, it saved the life i thought was dead and gone...into an enternity of misery, being a constant negative person i thought death was a blessing, because life could be so evil.
PERSPECTIVE. Yes, that is all, do not cringe, do not report this post because your hopes were too high, just do not underestimate what perspective can do for you.
Lets take a peep on how perspective changed MY life.
You wake up one day after years of constant regrets, tragedys and continuous sadness, you feel empty and souless. Like every day is just passing air, and that we are just waiting to die. All the dreams and goals i held so high when i was a kid were just memories, to painful to admit the impossibility of them if i dared to bring them up. Lucky for me, (despite all my negative points) i do have one thing, HOPE. I held onto that tiny bit of hope even in my darkest hours, subconsiously, hope works at the back of our heads, we dont even realise its the reason why we are still here today. Hope gave me the ability to change my perspective.
How you look at yourself really does depend on your perspective. you can succeed in life if you focus on your good points and ignore that bad points, but to REALLY be happy... You need to change your perspective of those points. Find the positivity in those negative points. I do not pick and choose the points of me that i let to rule my life. I accept myself as a whole, and you should to. That means, loving your the shitty things about yourself and loving the positive things about yourself.
Perspective doesnt just make us happier when we change the way we look at ourselves, but it also helps us to realise that the "bad" things in our life... are not that bad. It's way harder then changing your self image, i know. Finding a positive perspective on the death of a loved one, loss of a job, break up or even being broke...is the hardest challenge to face in life. Maybe i dont want to always be happy...maybe i just want to grieve and cry without studying a way to make myself happy. And that is FINE!!! I cry at least once a week to myself, i get angry all the time, i complain & whine... that doesnt mean your unhappy and need to change your perspective on life. Its impossible to be happy 24/7 (and probably unhealthy..) The important thing is that overall you KNOW deep down that you have a good life and that you are happy. You dont need to constantly be happy, you just cant be constantly depressed.
So, i got to that day in my life were i cracked (a day i was expectting but dreading for months) i thought it would be my breaking point, the day i attempt suicide, or kill someone. But instead, my mind reacted differently (i love how our minds constantly surprise us) I stood up for that little tiny bit of hope i still held on to, and it triggered me to say no. 'No im not coming into work cos i hate this job and im going to find a new one"... "No i dont want to do that" "No i dont want to go there with you"
I changed my friends, my job, moved house... everything i could change i did. And slowly i was realising that life is changeable...only we can do it though.
And for the things in life we cant change like the past, i required a bit more of perspective for that. I started working with disadvantaged people (REALLY disadvantaged people) and i remembered the good times not the bad. It made me happy. Honestly, perspective will save you.
If you were to ever meet me in person, you'd probably question my zest for life, my seemingly constant happiness. I get asked alot "how do you put on such a happy face and bright attitude when your in a shitty mood" These people are most likely refferring to my attitude towards daily struggles (work, cleaning, bills ect) So today, i thought i'd tell you my deepest secret key to happiness. This one trick will save you internally, it will heal you mentally and completely change your life. Before reading on please please PLEASE make sure you are prepared to receive information that can ultimatately result in mood changes, major new life decisions and revaluation of old decisions.
This one, tiny secret, is what stopped me from pulling that trigger, it saved the life i thought was dead and gone...into an enternity of misery, being a constant negative person i thought death was a blessing, because life could be so evil.
PERSPECTIVE. Yes, that is all, do not cringe, do not report this post because your hopes were too high, just do not underestimate what perspective can do for you.
Lets take a peep on how perspective changed MY life.
You wake up one day after years of constant regrets, tragedys and continuous sadness, you feel empty and souless. Like every day is just passing air, and that we are just waiting to die. All the dreams and goals i held so high when i was a kid were just memories, to painful to admit the impossibility of them if i dared to bring them up. Lucky for me, (despite all my negative points) i do have one thing, HOPE. I held onto that tiny bit of hope even in my darkest hours, subconsiously, hope works at the back of our heads, we dont even realise its the reason why we are still here today. Hope gave me the ability to change my perspective.
How you look at yourself really does depend on your perspective. you can succeed in life if you focus on your good points and ignore that bad points, but to REALLY be happy... You need to change your perspective of those points. Find the positivity in those negative points. I do not pick and choose the points of me that i let to rule my life. I accept myself as a whole, and you should to. That means, loving your the shitty things about yourself and loving the positive things about yourself.
Perspective doesnt just make us happier when we change the way we look at ourselves, but it also helps us to realise that the "bad" things in our life... are not that bad. It's way harder then changing your self image, i know. Finding a positive perspective on the death of a loved one, loss of a job, break up or even being broke...is the hardest challenge to face in life. Maybe i dont want to always be happy...maybe i just want to grieve and cry without studying a way to make myself happy. And that is FINE!!! I cry at least once a week to myself, i get angry all the time, i complain & whine... that doesnt mean your unhappy and need to change your perspective on life. Its impossible to be happy 24/7 (and probably unhealthy..) The important thing is that overall you KNOW deep down that you have a good life and that you are happy. You dont need to constantly be happy, you just cant be constantly depressed.
So, i got to that day in my life were i cracked (a day i was expectting but dreading for months) i thought it would be my breaking point, the day i attempt suicide, or kill someone. But instead, my mind reacted differently (i love how our minds constantly surprise us) I stood up for that little tiny bit of hope i still held on to, and it triggered me to say no. 'No im not coming into work cos i hate this job and im going to find a new one"... "No i dont want to do that" "No i dont want to go there with you"
I changed my friends, my job, moved house... everything i could change i did. And slowly i was realising that life is changeable...only we can do it though.
And for the things in life we cant change like the past, i required a bit more of perspective for that. I started working with disadvantaged people (REALLY disadvantaged people) and i remembered the good times not the bad. It made me happy. Honestly, perspective will save you.
22-25, F
