do you ever find yourself hoping that someone you dont like has died?

Tumbleweed: I had a family member that was like that. She was playing games using her health to control family and did it for a decade. I went over every weekend to clean and do laundry and bring her things she needed. One day I looked over by the side of her bed and she had been spitting out medication that the nurse was giving her onto the floor. I figured out she was making herself sick because every time I told her I was going to take some vacation days (and just to stay home and rest) she'd end up in the hospital...wondered how she did it till I found the medicine. I also figured out if I didn't tell her when I was going to take my vacation that she wouldn't go into the hospital, and ended up actually going somewhere, and calling her after I got there. That caused her to be very spiteful to me because she couldn't play her game and she'd sit and glare at me when I'd come back to help her.There were times I'd go over and she'd be getting around OK and then the home health nurse would drive up and she'd start moaning and limping around when she came in the house. I can understand your feelings although I never wished her dead, just wished she'd stop all that crap and she ended up in the nursing home eventually. Good grief it's hard to deal with people like that.