I Do Not Understand I know 3 couples where the husband or wife was caught cheating but they are...

SW-User

I've always said that the more a spouse says all this lovey Dovey b.s about another spouse on fb the more You know one of them majorly effed up ...my hubby says nothing nice about me on fb and that's how I like it and vice versa . I'd rather he tell me in person then on Facebook .

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

I will never understand most relationships. I've come to be ok with this. Being single is easiest for me.

RumBoy75 · 46-50, M

One of them is daily(ok maybe 5-6 days a week), the others are at least 2-3 times a week

YoMomma ·

Well I have distant friends and family all over the country and out of the country so it is a nice convenient way to keep up with them ... I don't post much there myself at least not much personal stuff.. I repost a lot of random stuff that I follow tho.. If and when I'm ever there.. I'm mostly places like here tho.. O.o

RumBoy75 · 46-50, M

Ya I have no family here, closest is 4 hours drive away and I haven't talked to or seen him since I moved here. All of my closest friends down here have moved away to different cities across the country

YoMomma ·

Well thank you @Twister .. I try to be but sometimes full honesty is rather unwelcome *crinkles nose* so :/ bummer that

Intissima · F

Sometimes it is what it is. And why ask them to admit something that maybe painful for them to admit. That's how they may cope.

Carissimi · F

It's their business. No one knows the intracacies of a relationship except the two people having it.

twistermind · 51-55, F

Perhaps, they give lots of relevance to what other people thinks of them.
But, the thing about an open relationship has also a point.

Also, perhaps they live as a failure what happened in their marriages, you know the need for other people bc they don't feel the same anymore but they don't want to assume it.
It's not easy to assume something ended up when you had so much expectations and put so much love.

RumBoy75 · 46-50, M

Oh I like it... I can keep up with friends and family without having to get on the phone or read emails. I don't like the blatantly obvious people that try to make things better than they really are. Fortunately I only have a few of those. There are some exaggerations but that would happen on the phone, in person or in email anyway

1961dave · 61-69, M

I was cheated on when I was married, as soon as I found out I said I want a divorce. I put up with way to much B.S. in my marriage, but cheating is a sure finish to me, no turning back!

twistermind · 51-55, F

Me too. I change between talking about how wonderful he is and how I feel like crowbarring him. :-)

twistermind · 51-55, F

I guess FB has to have a point. But, as I don't have many friends or family abroad.
I'm not very fan either to tell people what I'm doing. I like to do it.

YoMomma ·

*facepalm*

1961dave · 61-69, M

I'm sorry about your rough situation Epic Lady, I understand what you're going through!

twistermind · 51-55, F

@ Epic: you seem pretty honest. But, I would bet it's a matter of the two parties.

RumBoy75 · 46-50, M

@Chernobylsplayground My friend and I were talking about it one day and she said the exact same thing

RumBoy75 · 46-50, M

I can assure you they are not open. Seen the fights about cheating

twistermind · 51-55, F

Very true. I neither have FB.

1961dave · 61-69, M

That's really is a rough deal Epic Lady!

RumBoy75 · 46-50, M

It is their business. They are choosing to make it public by posting "I have the best husband ever" or "My wife is the greatest" daily. I am not asking them to admit anything. I am not even judging or asking how their marriage is. What I don't understand is why make it a point to go the extreme of posting publicly about it. Then get a text or a call later about how the cheater is making the one being cheated on miserable.

SW-User

I have one on FB just like that. A family friend goes on a post Hallmake type BS about how great her husband is. Only problem is he has two children from other women, while they were married. ugh

YoMomma ·

Interesting..

YoMomma ·

Honestly tho I'm almost just as bad.. Sometimes I totally want a divorce and other times I rave about how great my hub is as well.. So I'm actually one of those morons too.. *rolls eyes* but the ridiculousness of it all doesn't escape my notice either.. Sadly.. Some people just can't let go or leave well enough alone.. Sad to say :(

YoMomma ·

It's because cheaters are usually liars too.. Sigh they are still together because they like to pretend everything is ok.. Either that or it's actually partially true and there's something great about their married as well despite the cheating 🤕 Ya know? Have their cake and eat it too 😕 Sorta thing? Idk 😒

twistermind · 51-55, F

I'm at a point where I'm thinking about kicking him out and then, dating him. Lol!

YoMomma ·

Lol @Twister

And thank you @Dave.. Tho I'm probly the culprit in my own story o.O

Carissimi · F

Maybe they have an open marriage.

twistermind · 51-55, F

*this is denial*

YoMomma ·

Lol @Twister

twistermind · 51-55, F

The best advise. Only dating. Don't live together or marrige. :))))

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YoMomma ·

Daily? That is pretty bad.. And laughable too.. Maybe you should call BS on them.. Lol

SW-User

In other words I would rather him b.s me to my face hahaha ...no but ,really I hate Facebook and all its fakeness ...it's all bullshit ...I don't buy anyone is perfect and happy ...that does not exist ...

jjoe01

People are basically hypocrites.