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I Am the Family Scapegoat

I am the oldest, and I am the stepchild. My "natural" father died when I was 2 so I never knew him. Being the oldest and a stepchild just made me an easy target to blame when things went wrong. Its sad, but I am just now coming to the realization that its not okay. I hate the thought of giving up on my family, but when I stand up for myself I am the bad guy. So I have to put myself first and say goodbye to my family. I am sad for me, its a loss, but I deserve to heal and I cannot do that with the constant negativity and blame.

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jaymic64 · M

Same here

Cutiepi23

@jaymic64 how do you cope have you gone no contact.

jaymic64 · M

@Cutiepi23 I’ve had to. It became to much.

Cutiepi23

@jaymic64 how does it feel now. It's the most unjust feeling. I actually feel suicidal it all stems from my narcistic mother. She has spread it to my siblings her sister and family whovdont even know me but side with it all. If everyone is singing from the same sheet it looks like I'm the problem.

jaymic64 · M

@Cutiepi23 just remember you have to take care of you. Just live your life. If they want you to be a part of theirs that’s fine. If not you don’t need them. That’s how I look at it. Hope it helps.

Cutiepi23

They pretend to care to get into my life once in they do damage. They text and offer help if I refuse their offer They say I'm ungrateful. I cannot win. I'm going into hospital and they are acting like they care and want to visit me. I don't see them often why bother now. My Dad has an idea what my mum is like but too scared to do anything. She will come to visit me in the hospital and then spread lies. I can't take anymore. Thanks for replying I just need some sort of answers to deal with it. Lately because I've joined FB it got worse. I'm thinking of cancelling it now.

Cutiepi23

The seep into every corner of my life and spread lies to anyone who starts to like me.

jaymic64 · M

@Cutiepi23 I wish I had a great answer for you. I don’t do FB because my family does. You have the right to say who comes and sees you. I only let the people who want to be in my life in my life. It’s a hard choice to make but better in the end. I hope this helps.

Cutiepi23

@jaymic64 I must make that decision very soon. Thanks for your support 😊

jaymic64 · M

@Cutiepi23 anytime. That’s why we’re here. Be safe my friend 🤗