Well look at this as leadership by example. This is the very reason to discuss it in a forum such as this. I do not do so to boast - that has no point what so ever but to suggest that couples focus on the forces that attracted them to one another in the first instance. If they are honest - the attraction was in large part physical. I am very much attracted to my Wife and she knows it and we both benefit greatly by this. I insist that she experiences bliss and fulfillment - that is because making love is about giving pleasure not taking it.