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I Don't Date because...

I'm fat, boring, jobless, plain looking, have poor social skills, don't know how to respond to conversations, have a hard time connecting, and horrible at keeping friends, and staying in touch. Other than that, I suffer from depression, and anxiety, and tend to overthink a lot plus I'm asexual. All I do these days is get stuck on the internet, and playing video games, very unmotivated to do anything, and binge eat my feelings away. I've been living in a hole I can't seem to get out of no matter how hard I try...life is too cruel to me in the past that's why I'm stuck the way I am. There are days that I just stay in bed, and want everything to end.

My family is right, I guess I really am undateable. At least I'll save people from someone like me...I'm destined to be alone.

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TopOfTheWorld

Have you tried getting involved in some kind of volunteer work or helping others? Finding a purpose in doing that can often help the one giving the help as much as it does the helped and it can certainly be an effective antidote for depression and feelings of lack of self worth.

bittersweethermit · 36-40, F

@TopOfTheWorld I used to volunteer, and it was very rewarding. I didn't get money from it but volunteering in a soup kitchen, feeding the poor was fulfilling...it's the first time I felt like my life had purpose. But my toxic family were unsupportive, and wanted me to focus on getting a job so I can be useful to them...I was forced to take jobs that they want me to take because it was good opportunity, despite me not liking those jobs, only to be repeatedly rejected. That's when my depression started to take over my life.

TopOfTheWorld

@bittersweethermit im sorry to hear that , its very harsh on you . Maybe there's a possibility to do the soup kitchen work you found rewarding again?

bittersweethermit · 36-40, F

@TopOfTheWorld I've been pondering about that lately but they've been very strict here about covid, and social distancing. I'm just waiting for it to die down a bit then I'll consider that opportunity again.