I Am In An Ldr

I am glad you are over it.Some things sound far better than actually experiencing it.

@DancingStarGoddess : things are only a "mess" if you are focused on monogamy or ownership in your relationship(s)...
POLY allows each partner to share and still be focused on each other..

I'm experiencing some of those things but only to a certain degree, which i won't go into.. I'm a bit different to begin with but. Im glad to sort of be sliding away from it, things of this nature can be exhausting if you allow them to be.

@poly I'm very aware of all of that. All of my previous relationships for the most parts have been poly situations, I have no " jealous gene" it's the lack of open honesty I do not care for. Failure to be forthcoming, breeds many I'll feelings, and is a thing I want no part of. Had they been up front, nothing would have been an issue. But choosing to be dishonest and hurtful/ deceptive is where the issue lies. There is also some abuse.

@DancingStarGoddess: I agree that honesty breeds trust. I make sure that any potential partners (and all my present partners) KNOW that I only have bareback sex. THAT forces honesty...

I go into it cards on the table, so he had the option of taking or leaving as did I, but as things progressed, he began doing sneaky things, which was easier to hide as we didn't live together, I trusted, as we normally told everything, hid nothing. But all those little online exploits are coming to light, and the real ones too, and lying was the #1 nono for me. Add in the other things and it's time to go. Suppose I had more fun having casual sex anyway, but it's a shame.

@DancingStarGoddess: Sorry to hear that your trust was NOT returned in kind by your LDR partner...
I agree that you need to cut the ties and find another lover...

No worries, I won't be looking anytime soon.. but cutting the ties is most definitely in order.