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I Am In An Ldr

All those people who are in some sort of a long distance relationship,does it bother you at some point,that the guy/gal you madly love is carrying out multiple relationships online and offline,without your knowledge?

And that you have no option left other than trusting blindly what they say?

*True story*

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Maggimay · 46-50, F

You will never know, ldr require a huge amount of trust.

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boondock3737 · 46-50, M

@Maggimay: Want to be in one?

Soulspace · F

Exactly so.tremendous amount of trust, which is also very rare and hard to achieve.

Maggimay · 46-50, F

@boondock3737: no thank you. My life is already complicated as it is.

DancingStarGoddess ·

Literally just going through a similar situation.. wow. Lying here listening to him sleep as I type this. Things are a mess, and I'm secretly glad now that we don't live together. It would have been so much harder on me than it has been.

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DancingStarGoddess ·

I go into it cards on the table, so he had the option of taking or leaving as did I, but as things progressed, he began doing sneaky things, which was easier to hide as we didn't live together, I trusted, as we normally told everything, hid nothing. But all those little online exploits are coming to light, and the real ones too, and lying was the #1 nono for me. Add in the other things and it's time to go. Suppose I had more fun having casual sex anyway, but it's a shame.

polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

@DancingStarGoddess: Sorry to hear that your trust was NOT returned in kind by your LDR partner...
I agree that you need to cut the ties and find another lover...

DancingStarGoddess ·

No worries, I won't be looking anytime soon.. but cutting the ties is most definitely in order.

SW-User

When there can't be trust there can't be longevity. People anywhere can cheat. Online perhaps makes it easier. But there is something like integrity too. Not everyone will cheat and those who will, will cheat anywhere.

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SW-User

@Venuscalling: the best thing then is to avoid online relationship. Why do something and worry about your place constantly?

Soulspace · F

@Aidolovemostofyourthoughts:Spot on!

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polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

I AM also..
@Venuscalling: you are not alone. I believe it is natural and does not subtract from your love for each other..
Please read my "about me" in my profile and follow the links..
I believe in POLYANDRY... and live that lifestyle, even with my LDR..

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polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

@OWTFWN: It is NOT a lie.. I KNOW that I am not enough to please her all alone. YET I love her enough to open our relationship so she can have other lovers without threatening our relationship. I WANT her to be happy..

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boondock3737 · 46-50, M

Wait, they ARE having online relationships with others for sure? If so, you deserve better!

Soulspace · F

Absolutely!But I wasn't talking of myself here.

boondock3737 · 46-50, M

@Venuscalling: Oh I see. Well whoever needs to start respecting themselves more and not allow another person to do that to them...

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polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

I've been in a LDR for 1 1/2 yrs now, and I trust her to take care of her needs when I cannot be there, and to be open and honest with me. I am not afraid of loosing her to another man or woman or couple. I realize that I need to share her with others (on-line or in person) if I cannot get my shit together and join her in person all the time.. Even then, I'd encourage her to find others for the things that I am providing her with..
I don't OWN her...

If love is true, don't worry about it at all..

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Soulspace · F

Acceptance is very challenging.Ignoring might keep you at peace but for the moment.In any case,its not going to last.

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