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I'm Too Nice

I'm sick of putting other people before myself, but I'm terrified not to.

I have but two friends in real life, and I only talk to one of them on a regular basis. I enjoy his company and all, but I feel like he puts pressure on me to hold him accountable for his work. We have an ecology lab together, and he's counting on me to hold his hand through the entire thing because he "feels sick and tired". That's his excuse every time we go to do work and end up not getting it done. He gets awesome marks even though he puts little to no effort into his education. Not paying attention in class, not getting work in on time, not bothering to seek help from the professor when he needs it... He even has a full ride scholarship. He takes everything for granted and he's never punished for it.

I've expressed my frustration with his behavior before and he acts like all I ever do is attack him. He was like this back in high school too, but he's never seen anything wrong with his behavior. If I stop being friends with him, I'll be entirely alone. I don't know if I can handle that.

Just venting.
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I'm not in the position to give you the best advice as I'm someone who prefers toxic relationships over no relationships. I simply cannot stand being alone, and I don't have enough self love to think I'm better than abuse, but I always communicate my feelings. How they treat them is entirely up to them. I don't think I'll ever respect myself enough to think I'm better than people, or enjoy my own company, but I do know that I wouldn't give my time to people I cannot respect or find love for. The only people who have the power to put me down or I'll submit my happiness to are the ones I choose to love. If they're not worth that, then I don't give it to them. You should only have affection for people who deserve it.