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I Feel I Was Born Into The Wrong Family

[b]Oh boy. [/b]

My family is... well, at the risk of sounding like a classist, they are pretty much all poor white trash. 馃槖 They all have made really poor life choices repeatedly, valuing a good time over responsibility. They're all addicted to something, whether it's drugs, alcohol, food, or stealing. Most of them have been in and out of jail for various reasons. They all were physically abusive to both spouses and kids. They all raised their kids with the least effort possible, which pretty much translates to: we kids had to raise ourselves.

Most of my mom's side of the family is loud, crass, obstinate, and easily-angered, with huge senses of entitlement. A lot of them are narcissists, and I have one uncle who is probably a psychopath. They all partied hard in their youth and continued that lifestyle even into older age, which is why a lot of them are dead now from overdoses.

My dad's side of the family are all mousy, poor, uneducated, alcoholics who don't know anything of life except for marrying young and breeding a dozen babies before age 30. Most of them died early too- from fried foods and too much booze and cigarettes.

I'm different from them all, which is probably why I never felt like I fit in. The family member I was closest to was my beloved grandmother on mom's side- she was pure class. She was refined, sparkling, educated, wordly. Her home was always immaculate, she never touched tobacco and only had a sip or two of brandy at Christmas. I feel like of every member of my family, she was the one I was most like. She and I enjoyed the same activities, had the same taste in films, same senses of humor, we were both wholehearted practitioners of tact, and we both enjoyed the more refined things in life. I still wonder to this day why such a polished diamond of a woman married an oaf such as my grandfather, who was pretty much a bumpkin. 馃
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masterofyou70-79, M
I guess you are better than anyone.... All are beautiful in the sight of God....
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@masterofyou I'm not better than everyone. But I AM better than people who make deliberate choices to hurt or take advantage of other people. 100% better than that.
masterofyou70-79, M
Bitterness won't get you peace trashing the people around you will not get you closure...
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@masterofyou I had closure years ago after I disowned them. I have absolutely no regrets and my life is better for it.
masterofyou70-79, M
@DearAmbellina2113 It doesn't look it by your rant .. My Dad was an alcoholic, very abusive when was drunk... The reason was he never had a childhood.. He was the head of the house a and did a man's job at the age of twelve... Forgiveness is what he needed not shame.. Forgiveness is the answer...
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@masterofyou I'm sorry you went through that. But you don't know my family. They're all grown adults who still want to live life like teens with no responsibility and as many destructive behaviors as possible. You don't have to agree with my stance, but it's what works best for me.
masterofyou70-79, M
I'm 73 and I still want to be in my youth is that wrong... I still crave all the decadence of love and life... I have no answer for you as you already have all the answers....
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@masterofyou If you act like a child and ignore your responsibilities and treat your children like shit, yes, that's wrong. The end.
masterofyou70-79, M
@DearAmbellina2113 I know what responsibility is I'm a caregiver for my wife she has multiple sclerosis she has had it for 40 years we have be married for 43 years I'm her arms and legs for the past 10 years Don't preach to me Go cry in your beer .... It is apparent that you are better than anyone..
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@masterofyou Looks like you have a chip on your shoulder, and are also unable to place yourself into the shoes of others who have shitty families. Good day.