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Is it right to talk to someone you once loved?

I had an argument with my partner last night and I thought it was done. It got me thinking about looking up people I used to have in my life.
I searched all manner of places for some people but I couldn't find them. But one I did find I text and they replied back. What's worse is that that person was my perfect match and we used to get on like a house on fire. The problem was that we were on different sides of the pond and she was living with someone when we talked.
Even so we spoke on video call 6 hrs a day for months. Then he found out and we stopped talking. Life eventually went on and 9 years passed. Now she does follow me on Insta but we didn't have any communication. But last night she did respond via another social media platform to me and I wonder if it is possible to rekindle something? Or is it just an impossible dream.
Maybe me going through an old laptop earlier in the week and seeing pictures of her started me thinking. All my current partner wanted me to do was get rid of pictures relating to my second marriage. Maybe it stirred something?

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

There are so many warning signs flashing loud and clear all through this idea.
But then I suspect you know that anyway.

In an ideal world we should be able to fondly remember and still talk to those from our past safe in the knowledge that we are temporarily leaving the reality of now for the warm haven that is our rose tinted view of the past.

But we all know that’s a lie.

So the question is, is your reality of now worth losing for the rose tinted view of the past that come the cold, harsh light of day, could see you in a position where you have neither a reality nor a rose tinted view of the past ?

VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M

@Picklebobble2 the rose tinted view entailed me being totally in love with her. We shared all sorts of moments and talked constantly. Talking was easy with her, it's like I was more at ease with her than any woman I'd ever met and that goes for then and now. My problem was there was no easy way to make it happen, she had kids and so did I. At that moment I had no responsibility however that has now changed. So likelihood I could make something happen is very low.
My reality is screwed up because I live with a poor imitation of this exact woman. They share lots in common but there are very subtle differences that are a big issue with my current.