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I Grew Up In Foster Care

I want to talk about your toughest challenge. We have mentioned how hard it is to maintain connections, due to the constant moving in foster care, even when you are able to find a good home.

I wonder though, now that we are out, what is the biggest challenge you face in what I like to call "the real world"

For me it is conversation. For example, let's say you are at a friends campfire. What are the most common topics of conversation? Siblings? Parents? Childhood memories?

It is human nature to try and find a common bond with the people we talk to, especially people we are meeting for the first time. I find it a challenge to jump in on conversations of this nature, because lets face it my childhood memories are a real buzz kill.

Now that I have my own family and children, I can at least add to those kinds of conversations, but most of the conversations I find either a black hole where there should be a memory or nothing I can really talk about.

So how about you? What is your biggest challenge?
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xixgun · M
My friend's family moved every 2 years the entirety of her life with them.
She was perpetually the new kid. Eventually, she stopped trying to make friends, because she knew she'd just leave them in 2 years (or less).
Then, her senior year of high school, her parents suddenly became interested in her life.
"Why don't you have friends? You never invite anyone over."
She has no "home town" or "place she grew up".
Her whole childhood is based on how old she was at the time.
"When I was this old, we lived here, when I was this old, we lived there..."
To the rest of the world she seems this bitchy, snobbish, aloof sort of bitch.
She's not. This is what it's like when you make your kid little more than baggage.
Ladyred · 46-50, F
@xixgun Thank you, this is indeed a sad story that is played over and over all too often.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@xixgun that's sad
xixgun · M
@iamnikki This is always my viewpoint. A kid doesn't have to be sexually molested or beaten within an inch of their life to be abused.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@xixgun true
Ladyred · 46-50, F
@xixgun There are many forms of abuse and the silent killers are especially deadly.