Therapy going nowhere
For those of you that are seeing a therapist, has it ever occurred to you that you have stalled in your progress. How long do you suggest to insist when you think it is going nowhere? What would your advice be?
36-40, M
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SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
I was in therapy for 14 years. It is a long road. It's on the patient to drive the discussion and do the work. If you have a therapist who isn't helping you anymore for whatever reason, it's reasonable to decide if you want to continue with this person, or at all.
I hit a point where things just did not upset me as much as before. I gained wisdom and experience and it was at that point that therapy really seemed to be more of a bother than something I looked forward too with both excitement and apprehension.
I hit a point where things just did not upset me as much as before. I gained wisdom and experience and it was at that point that therapy really seemed to be more of a bother than something I looked forward too with both excitement and apprehension.
sumojumo · 36-40, M
@SumKindaMunster Thanks for the answer. Yes, it is a long road, I am starting to gain much more confidence to even give opinions about my mental state. And this reflection resulted in me doubting that I am making progress. But I am not sure if this realization itself is progress or what? :) Maybe I just need to hear from others that it takes time, and I just should not give up. So thank you. Nonetheless, I will re-evaluate my relationship with my therapist and see if I want to switch it.
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
@sumojumo You know, a good therapist will have that discussion with you and should give you good advice as to what he or she sees as your best option.
[quote] I am starting to gain much more confidence to even give opinions about my mental state. And this reflection resulted in me doubting that I am making progress. But I am not sure if this realization itself is progress or what?[/quote]
I think that is progress. I always found it to be a 2 steps forward, 1 step back endeavor. But that is still progress in the long run.
Happy to provide my perspective. I think it's healthy to have concerns and doubts as you continue your journey.
[quote] I am starting to gain much more confidence to even give opinions about my mental state. And this reflection resulted in me doubting that I am making progress. But I am not sure if this realization itself is progress or what?[/quote]
I think that is progress. I always found it to be a 2 steps forward, 1 step back endeavor. But that is still progress in the long run.
Happy to provide my perspective. I think it's healthy to have concerns and doubts as you continue your journey.
sumojumo · 36-40, M
@SumKindaMunster Oh, thanks, your input really means a lot to me. I do not think I even discussed me going to therapy with anyone else (besides my therapist, obviously :)). And I talked with her a year ago because I wanted to stop therapy, and she said that she respects my decision, but I have to be careful not to give up too soon. I guess that was a fair answer from her, so I continued, but now I am stuck again :). I have to assess my progress and see how satisfied I am - it is not an easy quest, so I have to practice my patience.
In the long run, I think I am already a much better person than I was when I started, and this gives me a lot of hope for the future.
In the long run, I think I am already a much better person than I was when I started, and this gives me a lot of hope for the future.
