I had a therapist tell me to "reinvent" myself
and I got angry. It triggered something in me, and later I felt guilty..that I was too harsh on her
But she was actually wrong. It was bad advice. Even though she was considered the "best" most "compassionate" therapist in the place, actually she was traumatized too, and the clinic was an unhealthy place and everybody working there were traumatized people, to say nothing of the patients.
Gusss how many actually got "better"?
I was fired from the joint by that THERAPIST as well.
Why..cause I needed her so much...or thought I did.
The harder it got with her...the more I clung. And the whole damm thing only lasted about 2 months from start to finish. Sheeeeesh!!! I was not one of those fluffy two week "cure" types for chrissake!! Or two months either. Esp with a shitty place.
And it took a couple of years to "heal" from that betrayal. Of course it was silly in the context...cause I had seen forty -odd therapists in my life...and I'm still messed up.
I suspect many of you recognize this pattern. Its not a good idea to end up sticking it back on the client, as if the best therapy..is not beng a therapist at all, but actually RENOUNCING their therapeutic responsibility.
Gabor says that with true insight and the work that leads to it, you may in fact end up understanding that the problem is within you, and more precisely..the GHOSTS howling and rattling around within you. And once you get friendly with them (not in bed copulating but COMFORTABLE) you will see that that miniature world inside you is the huge world still devouring you and it has been cut off from you, and has now returned to make YOU the stranger.
Beware of selling out. Its disingenuous to "reinvent" yourself when you never did it to begin with. Its hard to avoid that cheap BS though. Listning to Gabor Mate will show you why I am right about all this: Please help yourself...There are too many crappy exploitive "cures" abounding and many are as bad as the problems you begin with. Surprise surprise!! And here's Gabor Mate, somebody VERY different and MUCH more authentic than any of that. Hes not "just another" one of them[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9B5mYfBPlY&ab_channel=TimFerriss]
But she was actually wrong. It was bad advice. Even though she was considered the "best" most "compassionate" therapist in the place, actually she was traumatized too, and the clinic was an unhealthy place and everybody working there were traumatized people, to say nothing of the patients.
Gusss how many actually got "better"?
I was fired from the joint by that THERAPIST as well.
Why..cause I needed her so much...or thought I did.
The harder it got with her...the more I clung. And the whole damm thing only lasted about 2 months from start to finish. Sheeeeesh!!! I was not one of those fluffy two week "cure" types for chrissake!! Or two months either. Esp with a shitty place.
And it took a couple of years to "heal" from that betrayal. Of course it was silly in the context...cause I had seen forty -odd therapists in my life...and I'm still messed up.
I suspect many of you recognize this pattern. Its not a good idea to end up sticking it back on the client, as if the best therapy..is not beng a therapist at all, but actually RENOUNCING their therapeutic responsibility.
Gabor says that with true insight and the work that leads to it, you may in fact end up understanding that the problem is within you, and more precisely..the GHOSTS howling and rattling around within you. And once you get friendly with them (not in bed copulating but COMFORTABLE) you will see that that miniature world inside you is the huge world still devouring you and it has been cut off from you, and has now returned to make YOU the stranger.
Beware of selling out. Its disingenuous to "reinvent" yourself when you never did it to begin with. Its hard to avoid that cheap BS though. Listning to Gabor Mate will show you why I am right about all this: Please help yourself...There are too many crappy exploitive "cures" abounding and many are as bad as the problems you begin with. Surprise surprise!! And here's Gabor Mate, somebody VERY different and MUCH more authentic than any of that. Hes not "just another" one of them[youtube=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9B5mYfBPlY&ab_channel=TimFerriss]
