I Need Romance and Passion

One thing I learned in the 19 years I was married is that you need romance. All those years I never had any from him. I thought I would be ok because we got along fine, shared everything etc

But, one day it dawned on me. You can’t call it a “romantic relationship” without....romance! Otherwise, it’s a friendship. That’s what separates a platonic relationship from one that is not.

It’s something I’ve craved for so long, I wonder what it will feel like when I actually get it? I initiated things, I would do romantic things, just never got it in return.

I’ll tell you - soul searching can be eye opening lol

Pfuzylogic · M

It is true.
A loving relationship requires passion and a burning desire to see your partner the next day.

SW-User

There used to be an unspoken rule that you had to kiss your spouse and say “I love you” every night.

The kissing stopped long ago. I used to remember when we stopped saying “I love you.” It’s been so long I can’t even remember that.

This house is the last chapter of our marriage. Maybe it will end soon or we will wait until our son graduates.

I’m in no hurry for romantic love. I am starting to fear that I have always been incapable to understand it. To “feel” it.

TenderHeart · 46-50, F

I’m sorry to hear that. I can understand. I was going to wait until my kids were older too, but they were privy to the unhappiness and after all those years, I finally realized I deserve happiness too.
You are capable. But when it’s unknown it’s not something you’re able to fully comprehend. One day, you will be there. You will see you’re deserving and get tired of being unhappy. @SW-User