I Am a Survivor of Domestic Violence

@Caroline259: Over the last ten years they have talked about it.
Prior to her release from prison she wrote several letters to all of them asking them to come and see her so she could explain.
Two of them didnt want to know and let her know via a social worker.
My eldest actually went to see her !
I didnt know until fairly recently.
He said he was looking everywhere as he was taken through the prison to the waiting area.
Trying to get a sense of what life might be like for her living there.
Aparantly his mother spoke about how sorry she was and what her plans were on release.....
And at the end he stood up, said goodbye and hasn't seen her since !

@Picklebobble: Sounds to me that they came through OK. You should be proud of yourself.

@Caroline259: Somehow I don't feel it !

@suzie1960: I'm sorry to hear that. It just goes to show that women can be violent.

@Sharon: LOL! I got the cane at school for smoking too. It was the standard punishment for that offence. We both speak English as well! Oh dear, that must mean you and I are the same person. :)

@Caroline259: We must be several thousand other people too!

The whole system is biased against men. If they try to defend themselves they become the abuser. Female abusers who kill their victims are often portrayed as victims themselves.

Thank you. The pain has gone but the scars remain. At least he's safe now, she's dead.

It's disgusting in my opinion. It should be justice for all.

@Caroline259: agreed. I have been there - perhaps not so violently. But yeah

@APhoenix: That can work. Unfortunately a lot of the press is biased against male victims too. :(

@bijouxbroussard: That's another area that needs addressing. There's this strange idea that women can't be abusers. As you've found, it's mostly men who hold that view. Female perpetrated abuse of children is starting to be taken seriously for the same reason as domestic abuse of men is - more women in law enforcement.

@Caroline259: I've seen it happen. A local woman repeatedly attacked her husband but the police absolutely refused to take action against her. Things only changed when a female police inspector got involved.

@suzie1960: I've heard that accounts for the rise in female perpetrated crime. It's not that there is more, it's just that now it's recorded.

@Lushlaura: I don't know.

Abused men don't stand a chance: they can't defend themselves; they have no support network; there are very few refuges for them and their children; those that do escape are often forced to leave their children with their abuser; the police refuse to accept their reports of being abused and sometimes even arrest them.

@Lushlaura: Power without responsibility is a very dangerous combination.