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I Am A Good Person That Gets Taken Advantage Of

Thank You

2 simple but powerful words that can make the difference to a person.

Recently, I was taken advantage of, not once or twice, but many times. I am not stupid, just goal focused. It was when insult was added to injury is when I snapped and cut all ties. Was I right in how I handled it? I am not sure. Let’s just say I had had enough. It is one thing to help another, it is quite another thing to take advantage of and abuse another person.

I help out in our office. We have an older lady in her 70’s who runs the extra curricular activities. No one would help her so I jumped right in. I was the Costco queen, the plant lady, the errand runner and I did it all with a smile and no complaints.

This woman and her daughter commandeered my trip to London. For the sake of having a pleasant time, I went along with them just to enjoy a part of the trip. This lady invited me to Las Vegas. I figured out that it was to babysit her friend while she gambled. I looked at it as getting a free room but I have to tell you the friend was a pain.

The straw that broke the camel’s back was when I was promised a very large plant that I had taken care, had repotted and helped it thrive. The first large plant was given away and I was promised the second one, but this woman also gave it away behind my back.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t need another plant, but I was talked to like a dog. That did it. I washed my hands of helping her again. I called my boss, told him what happened (he was already aware of what they were doing to me) and stopped all communication with her and the other lady.

Why did I continue to help her all these years? It was for the good of the company and I felt badly for her due to her age. There is much more I could add but you get the picture.

I have already written about how I am helping a little girl who has drug addicted parents. This little girl is the step granddaughter of my brother and former sister in law.
I love to sew. I have made this little girl the most beautiful clothes & quilts not to mention the stuff I bought her on sale. I made sure she had Christmas presents.

Not once have I ever received acknowledgement for what I have done. I have never received a call to acknowledge they received the boxes, if the clothes fit or she likes them…much less a thank you.

This family lives in a very bad part of town. The post office doesn’t like to leave packages there. Plus the father has been known to sell their possessions. I put a tracer on them but sometimes they don’t acknowledge the mailman.

I have never received a thank you for anything. All I could get from my former SIL is how I have HURT HER feelings! Is there a better way of handling it? Not sure. I do know that I am looking at my kindness in a different light in 2015.
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mrfixitman
well, we understand it is not the little girls fault, poor kid, her parents are messing up her life and not doing their job in providing her guidance, cause they are incapable of it. So the girl is the loser in this situation.

I do not know what to say about the old lady, often they start to get senile and forgetful, and they are easily manipulated by unscrupulous people, I know, am going thru that now with in laws. SOme people are just screwed up, sometimes people take advantage of people, either intentional or unintentional. You did the right thing, cut the ties and good riddance. Next time they find themselves in a bind and they come to you just let em know you are too busy to help, eventually they will get the hint, or they will find someone else to take care of their issues, once again, not my problem anymore. i am going thru the same shit myself now.
akindheart · 61-69, F
even my boss supports me. he saw it but didn't say anything. i am going to continue to send the little girl things regardless of the parents. i just have to cut the price tags off or he will sell them.
mrfixitman
that is so sad. If there is anything I detest is parents not taking care of their children. Too bad the undesirable ones would automatically be sterile till they either get their shit together, or if they never do, not have children. So sad.
iseeuthrou
ha!!! a true revelation!!! u r the one!!!
nothing more vqluable than thruth.
Happy New Year Samatha! U will be kicked out of my territory!!