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I Believe Consent Is Vital In A Relationship

[big]Consent must be
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1) [b]Awake[/b], As in, not asleep, passed our or otherwise unconscious.

2) [b]Aware,[/b] As in, not so drunk, drugged or exhausted, as to be unable to make good decisions.

3) [b]Specific[/b]. You MAY do this, you may NOT do that.

4) [b]Revocable[/b]. You might have said yes 100 times, but no can be invoked and revoked at any time with no reason given.

5) [b]Enthusiastic.[/b] Yes must be genuine, "Oh Okay, go ahead" means, you have been pressured, and can't resist further.

Anything else is Not consent, it is predatory.

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Quizzical · 46-50, M

Okay... How do you feel about consent being withdrawn AFTER the act has been completed? Say, days, weeks, or even months later...

AND

What if both parties are too drunk to make good decisions?

SatyrService · M

@Quizzical consent is about "now" not later. if you consent, and regret it later? that's just [b]remorse.[/b]

even if you are [i]tricked[/i] into consenting, you still gave consent.
false premises? well, that would be up to you how you wanted to make it right

if both parties are too drunk to make good decisions?

[i]then maybe they need to grow up about how to drink.[/i]
too bad that is how too many kids get made.

Quizzical · 46-50, M

@SatyrService I only ask because there are moves in some countries to allow consent to be rescinded at a later date.

And I asked about drinking because of a uni anti-rape poster I saw that had both students drinking heavily, yet the blurb on it pretty much stated that in that state the guy could make decisions, but the girl couldn't... Which I thought was kind of unfair to both sexes really.

SatyrService · M

@Quizzical men and women are equal in this matter.
lets take it out of sex, for clarity

someone sells you a car. after wards you fount out he did not really own it.

you gave CONSENT to buy the car,, that does NOT MEAN you don't have [b]recourse to respond to the FRAUD[/b]

all fraud works this way, the get you to consent,
to a false deal.
it was bad judgement, but you get to seek restitution.

and yeah, that poster was bunk.