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I I'm a People Person, But I Don't Really Like People

I enjoy the company of people, and I like being helpful and generous. Although, I end up deciding many people aren't very good, after being kind to them for a certain period. They will show that they are only takers, and they never give back or think of others.
Especially in USA, this tendency is commonplace, and it's even hidden beneath a facade of polical-correctness that includes kindness.

I find that almost everyone is selfish, greedy, and self-absorbed with their own perspective. So many people don't even really have conversations - they just talk, and then wait until it's their turn to talk again.

I want to find good people to connect with, and build life with them around. I like helping and being a benefit to others, and I don't think I demand much, if any - of their direct assistance to reward them with that type of behavior.

I consistently feel like each person is using others, and they have rationalized away any reason they would be wrong with their behaviors.

People convince themselves they would "give someone needy the shirt off (their) back," yet then they will walk by a homeless person holding a sign, without a word. They won't feel dishonest with their assumption, because the homeless person "deserves" the position they are in.

I guess I don't know how to ignore some while paying attention to others. It's difficult for me and as a result I have become a hermit. I like people though, so being a hermit is very depressing and sad.
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Tvxhed · 41-45, M
That's a good methodology, IF you are ok with being selfish (like everyone else is...).
I am not like that though - I was originally but I had a paradigm shift in my thinking and I have not been able to return to the prior mindset.
I care about others... If someone is suffering, it hurts me to ignore them and move on - if I have the ability to help in any way. Even though I am very poor and have poor credit, etc. - there are so many people who are WORSE off, at least on a day to day basis.

I want a family. I know it will also make my parents proud of me, and feel like I have become a success in life. I do not know how to connect with women anymore, because I feel like they are very judgemental and those judgements are based solely on material wealth or possessions.

*I shortened this loads, lol*