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I Am a People Pleaser

All my decisions in life have been taken on the basis of a single line of thought "I don't wanna hurt X", OR "I don't wanna hurt Y" OR "I don't wanna hurt Z". Not for a single instance have I stopped to consider how I might feel about a certain decision. When it comes to conflicting interests, I try to go for the solution that hurts the minimum number of people or one that causes the minimum amount of sadness to people, regardless of what it does to me. I have been a people pleaser for so long that I don't know what makes me happy anymore! Lol

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Rokasu · 36-40, M

I think I have a similar predicament with a co-worker of mine. Long story short, we have to have a meeting in order for all of us to single them out. It's just how it is sometimes.

More on the vein of your discussion, you should definitely try to put yourself first. Other people don't give a fuck about you, and they'll let it show.

TheIncredibleHulka · 31-35, F

@Rokasu I. Just. Can't. Sometimes I just wish to die so that I don't have make these choices . Lol

Rokasu · 36-40, M

@TheIncredibleHulka That's rough dude. No self love? God if I didn't have that I would be royally fucked, and to be honest, I didn't for a long time. Now I'm equally as much of an asshole as every one else. Only difference is I keep my distance and control my social urges.

Really hope you don't feel that way for real dude. We need more brilliant folks like you making differences.

TheIncredibleHulka · 31-35, F

@Rokasu lol thanks dude. Nah this will pass I guess. That's my problem I'm way too busy keeping up with my good girl image.

Rokasu · 36-40, M

@TheIncredibleHulka Good deal man. I feel like no bullshit Hulka would tear some shit up.