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RobinPhoenix · M
I have experienced three situations that were so scary that I cannot forget them:
I was 10 when my dad had a serious accident in the mountains and I had to leave him alone to get help. I thought I would never see him alive again and that I would be all alone now because I had already lost my mother 5 years before.
I had to run for my life from the 2004 tsunami in the Indian Ocean. My partner and I were on vacation in Khao Lak when the earthquake happened.
Had to be taken to the hospital by ambulance because I had a life threatening metabolic derailment and the last thing I heard before I passed out were the doctor's words to my partner that he didn't know if I would survive.
I was 10 when my dad had a serious accident in the mountains and I had to leave him alone to get help. I thought I would never see him alive again and that I would be all alone now because I had already lost my mother 5 years before.
I had to run for my life from the 2004 tsunami in the Indian Ocean. My partner and I were on vacation in Khao Lak when the earthquake happened.
Had to be taken to the hospital by ambulance because I had a life threatening metabolic derailment and the last thing I heard before I passed out were the doctor's words to my partner that he didn't know if I would survive.
Loretta78 · 46-50, F
@RobinPhoenix All three situations are indeed VERY scary - although the scariest indeed might be number 1, when you had to take in the age of 10 the responsibility to get some help for your dad.
I am very sorry that all this has happened to you - and also the loss of your mother in such a young age. 😐
I am very sorry that all this has happened to you - and also the loss of your mother in such a young age. 😐
RobinPhoenix · M
@Loretta78 You've got that right. With the other two situations, I was already an adult and could explain them to myself more or less rationally and come to terms with them, since the probability of a repetition is very low.
The fear of losing my father was so existential that I had to struggle with it for a long time and actually never got rid of this fear completely. This fear is always there. My mind knows that at some point it is time to say goodbye, but my heart or soul does not want to admit it.
The fear of losing my father was so existential that I had to struggle with it for a long time and actually never got rid of this fear completely. This fear is always there. My mind knows that at some point it is time to say goodbye, but my heart or soul does not want to admit it.
Loretta78 · 46-50, F
@RobinPhoenix I hear you. I really do. 😐
But on the other site it was an incredible act that you got help for your dad because so you helped him to survive the accident. 👍
When I understand you right so your father is still alive?
But on the other site it was an incredible act that you got help for your dad because so you helped him to survive the accident. 👍
When I understand you right so your father is still alive?
RobinPhoenix · M
@Loretta78 True, I was (and still be) a bit proud that I had managed that, but since the death of my mother I suffered extremely from fear of loss and the situation with my dad had intensified this once again.
You really hear me because of your own mother?
Yes, he is still alive. He will be 80 next year and fortunately he is still very fit, both physically and mentally. :)
You really hear me because of your own mother?
Yes, he is still alive. He will be 80 next year and fortunately he is still very fit, both physically and mentally. :)
Loretta78 · 46-50, F
@RobinPhoenix You even don´t know HOW MUCH I understand you and your fear of losing your father.
Youo know, when I was 13 my mother had a TERRIBLE accident. She was for 1 months or even more in coma, and actually I was asked to go to an orphanage because I never had a father. I had to say thank you to my teacher in school who managed everything that I didn´t have to go to orphanage. But nobody knew for a looonng time if my mother would survive. Thankfully she did!
But also my fear is still here to lose her one day - and I KNOW I will lose her sooner or later (that´s the circe of life!). And the day when I will lose her will be my worst one because I live socially totally isolated. I have no friends, no husband - nobody. Just my brother who calls me maybe twice a year and my son, who lives in a big geographically distance.
Well, it is what it is. 🤷♀️
But I am glad to know that your father has such a proud age and that he is fit physically and mentally! 👍🙂
Youo know, when I was 13 my mother had a TERRIBLE accident. She was for 1 months or even more in coma, and actually I was asked to go to an orphanage because I never had a father. I had to say thank you to my teacher in school who managed everything that I didn´t have to go to orphanage. But nobody knew for a looonng time if my mother would survive. Thankfully she did!
But also my fear is still here to lose her one day - and I KNOW I will lose her sooner or later (that´s the circe of life!). And the day when I will lose her will be my worst one because I live socially totally isolated. I have no friends, no husband - nobody. Just my brother who calls me maybe twice a year and my son, who lives in a big geographically distance.
Well, it is what it is. 🤷♀️
But I am glad to know that your father has such a proud age and that he is fit physically and mentally! 👍🙂
RobinPhoenix · M
@Loretta78 My sympathy to your 13 year old self who had to experience such a terrible and threatening time and had to go through it alone, without the assistance and support of a father or other close relatives. You must have felt very lonely at that time and simply overwhelmed by what was happening and what it would mean for your life if your mother wouldn´t come back from hospital. Fortunately she came back and was able to be by your side until now. I hope for your sake that she can continue to do so for many years to come.
We know that the circles of life always close at some point, for one sooner and for the other later, and yet we do not want to admit it when it affects our own loved ones. I think it's a kind of self-protection we surround ourselves with so we can be able to enjoy the time we have with our loved ones as intensely as possible.
You must have experienced a lot of disappointment in your life to live in such isolation and I am very sorry for that.
We know that the circles of life always close at some point, for one sooner and for the other later, and yet we do not want to admit it when it affects our own loved ones. I think it's a kind of self-protection we surround ourselves with so we can be able to enjoy the time we have with our loved ones as intensely as possible.
You must have experienced a lot of disappointment in your life to live in such isolation and I am very sorry for that.
Loretta78 · 46-50, F
@RobinPhoenix Well, it is what it is. 🤷♀️