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I Am Getting Married

It's been a while since I last logged into SW. I just got engaged to someone very special to me. I'm happy, but honestly not as happy as I should be.
I imagined myself still in college right now with a part time job, hanging out with friends and making new ones. I imagined myself being in a relationship and eventually getting married after some time of living like normal couples.
Instead, I'm almost done with my course, haven't even moved in with him before taking a plunge like this one and by summer next year, we'll be leaving my hometown to be with him across the country and leaving my life and family behind.
He's everything I imagined as a person to spend the rest of my life with.
I'm being forced and rushed into making a wedding when I don't really want that. In the next month we'll be married and have a wedding ceremony in December. I thought things like these took time and one was supposed to enjoy it.. Not enjoying it at all!
LostSoul17
26-30, F
19 replies 81 views Sep 12, 2016
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LostSoul17 · 26-30, F
Getting married isn't the problem. I just hoped that we'd go to court and sign the papers. I don't want a wedding reception (at least not until we move and settle down) and even when I say I don't want it, my fiancé and family are planning it. Not all my family lives near by, neither does his. I barely have friends, his friends live across the country. So it'll be pretty empty and not only that, me and my fiancé want different things for it.
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SW-User
Tell him about how you feel about all this, and suggest how you wish things went.
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LostSoul17 · 26-30, F
I did, and we both wanted a fall wedding but we're too late to plan than for this year and next year we'll be moving from Puerto Rico to California. And he wants us to get married now so I can recieve his benefits and he'll get paid more before he leaves. My whole family is planning a wedding I don't want.
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talktome2day
Then be honest with him, tell him.. But at the same time make sure this is really what you want.. Good luck..
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SW-User
Marriage is so serious that if you are not sure you want it you probably shouldn't get it.
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MrsKatherineArch · 41-45, F
If you are having those doubts already, maybe you should slow down?
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rottenrobi · 56-60, F
Please, speak up with him and his family. You've got to. I feel like you will only become more resentful and it could end badly. You're still so young, you should be doing exactly what you want to be doing. There's plenty of time to be couped up in marriage.
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talktome2day
Yeah, they do take Time if you are not sure please don't do something you might regret later... If you truly loved this person you wouldn't have a doubt in your mind. I would really think about that really hard...
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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
Being rushed into a romance or marriage is a very serious red flag. It implies that your fiance. is afraid of what you might decide if you took the time to think it over. Please consider a different time frame.
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allsfinebime2 · M
No one can force you into something that you don't want to do. With this being said, if you are having strong doubts? You should not do it. If the person whom wants to marry you and loves you truly understands? They should wait, and would be willing to wait for you to get your schooling done. Best of luck to the both of you.
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SW-User
How about postponing it ....
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LostSoul17 · 26-30, F
Once again, getting married is not my issue, I'm very excited to spend the rest of my life with him. I just don't wsnt to throw a ceremony yet.
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SoundHound · 56-60, M
why are you being forced? Going into marriage this way doesn't really make the joining together truly pleasant
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fddlpej · 61-69, M
Don't do it until it feels right. You might find the one after you are married and that would be depressing.
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hippyjoe1955 · 61-69, M
Marriage is the best option. The other things you list are simply childish nonsense.
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Jazzyloves13 · 26-30, F
I wish you happy life together and one hell of a kickass bachelorette party!
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HypnoChode · 46-50, M
Congrats.
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