If you only give yourself one chance to be in a relationship
you'll make better decisions about who you date
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Jpfunjunky · 41-45, M
You could scrutinize someone all you want, but you can’t see what lies beneath. There’s no way to predict the future and how events like the death of a loved one or health issues will affect you or your partner. People change! There’s no way to even know what you will be like in a year or five years down the road
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@Jpfunjunky I've already answered this if you'd like to read the other strings of replies
Jpfunjunky · 41-45, M
@Jackaloftheazuresand I did, and your answers are shit. You act like finding someone is something you can research and review ratings on before you buy. That doesn’t even work with buying a car dude. You could still end up with a lemon!
At least you can take a car to a mechanic to get looked at before you buy it, but how does that work with a person who is ever changing? Take them to get a psych eval before dating them? It’s just ridiculous!
At least you can take a car to a mechanic to get looked at before you buy it, but how does that work with a person who is ever changing? Take them to get a psych eval before dating them? It’s just ridiculous!
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@Jpfunjunky Apparently you didn't read them because if you actually had you would have noticed when I said "make the best decision of all, date nobody"
I suspect the real reason this offends you is because you ignored signs in your relations and are looking for excuses
I suspect the real reason this offends you is because you ignored signs in your relations and are looking for excuses
Jpfunjunky · 41-45, M
@Jackaloftheazuresand No, I read them and I disagreed with the date nobody idea. It’s just absurd! There is no way to tell who we are even going to be down the road, let alone anyone we’re dating.
I’m nowhere close to who I used to be and neither is my wife. It caused issues but we’ve adapted and grown. Some people reach different stages of life and perspective at different times. Maybe someday you will too.
I’m nowhere close to who I used to be and neither is my wife. It caused issues but we’ve adapted and grown. Some people reach different stages of life and perspective at different times. Maybe someday you will too.
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@Jpfunjunky You'll just have to face it that those who follow my guide are more likely to have better relationships than those who follow yours
Jpfunjunky · 41-45, M
@Jackaloftheazuresand No I don’t think so. I’m not trying to start a cult following here. Anyone who thinks they can plan the future by what they think they know, is just mislead. You haven’t a clue where life will take you, or take from you. All the planning in the world and you or your loved one could die tomorrow. So think less, live more, and stop worrying about what you can’t control.
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@Jpfunjunky think less bahaha, that may work if I were in that blissful state known as ignorance. Unfortunately for me, I'm not a feather dancing in the wind.
You think you can plan for the future yourself, your plan being that you can't plan. Everything you do serves order. All things have predictable outcomes and follow the laws of the universe, just because you lack the mind to account for them doesn't mean I do.
You think you can plan for the future yourself, your plan being that you can't plan. Everything you do serves order. All things have predictable outcomes and follow the laws of the universe, just because you lack the mind to account for them doesn't mean I do.
Jpfunjunky · 41-45, M
@Jackaloftheazuresand Lol wow.
You can’t account for everything in life. If you think you can, then you have a god complex.
Most likely though, you have anxiety due to abandonment issues. So then you think if you factor every little thing in and control every detail, you won’t ever have to face abandonment. That’s sad.
I feel for you and you should go get professional help.
You can’t account for everything in life. If you think you can, then you have a god complex.
Most likely though, you have anxiety due to abandonment issues. So then you think if you factor every little thing in and control every detail, you won’t ever have to face abandonment. That’s sad.
I feel for you and you should go get professional help.
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@Jpfunjunky You already stated death as something that can't be planned for, that is one of the easiest. If you think that's a crazy obstacle then I can see just how little you know. The Paradox is beyond your grasp and forever will be because your brain can't get anymore powerful than what it is now. I suppose your nature is good though because by virtue it means you will be forgotten and you'll be okay with that.