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I don't know how to ask him out.

So, I have this guy friend who I like and he likes me. I want to ask him out but I am scared to because of the age difference. I'm 19, almost 20, and he is 34. My parents don't know about him. We have been seeing each other in private. I don't know why I'm scared and feel like he will reject me. I feel ugly and stupid. What do I do?
fluteacorn
22-25, F
16 replies 99 views Aug 17, 2020
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Pdad49 · M
Man up and ask him out!
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DecafD
Stop feeling ugly and stupid. If you really were those things, then he wouldn’t like you so we know that’s not true. Have you ever brought up other couples with age gaps to see your parents reaction? They may like him bc he’s older and a little more established.
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fluteacorn · 22-25, F
@DecafD I never have because they're very judgemental.
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DecafD
@fluteacorn well if you still live with them, then this may be hard. If you have your own place, then you can place emphasis that you’re an adult and this is not their decision or life. Do you need to bring him up right now or this isn’t so serious yet?
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fluteacorn · 22-25, F
@DecafD I would say we aren't really serious yet. We are going on a date in a few hours though.
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SW-User
Just tell him. I know it's scary, but just be straightforward about it. If he rejects you, then it is what it is. Otherwise, you'll just forever wonder what would have happened.
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HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M
Well just think of it this way. If he didn't like you he wouldn't be seeing you in the first place sooo. Yeah just do it lol
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ExperienceDLT · M
Be yourself if he doesnt like you for who you are then he is the wrong guy for you anyways
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fluteacorn · 22-25, F
@geoam1 I'm scared though. What if I stumble over my words?
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melissa001 · 51-55, F
If you're old enough to want to date an older man then you should be mature enough to ask him out. Otherwise to me it seams as if your just crushing on him like a teenager.
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Rokasu · 36-40, M
19 -> 34. Please don't let yourself do this.
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fluteacorn · 22-25, F
@Rokasu Why though?
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uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Sounds like it's happening already. What exactly is there to ask?
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