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I Am In a Desperately Bad Situation

Some of you may remember my situation- lost my job, had to move in with my future in-laws in Texas, and I've been here for a year and have had no luck finding a job. Fiance is disabled and cannot find work he is able to do. Also my transmission died in my car, so now I'm stuck without transportation. No Uber or Lyft around here, too rural and the town only has 850 people.

The entire reason we agreed to move here was because we were told by Mother In Law (MIL) that we could stay in her rental property rent-free in exchange for us fixing it and cleaning it (prior tenants were hoarders and the place was trashed). So we spent all summer doing the neccessary work on the place, only for her to tell us we cant live there after the work was done. 馃槨 Instead, she forced us to move into HER home. We are stuck in one bedroom, with our own bathroom (thankfully), but we have zero privacy (she eavesdrops on us constantly, I cant use the phone, and she walks into our part of the house any time she feels like it). We have very limited use of the kitchen too. So we basically live on sandwiches and microwave food.

All of this has been absolutely hell on me. I've submitted over 100 job applications and resumes to ALL types of jobs in this area and I've been rejected by every one, all year. I can't babysit or clean homes for money- no car and no place to watch kids in this tiny cluttered house with 5 dogs.

In other words, I am 100% stuck. I have no family to count on. My mom is trying to sell her house right now, and when she does, she's coming to get me and my fiance and we will be moving to a new city with her. Buuuut there is no telling when her house will sell. It could be a year or longer, and I am not willing to wait that long.

Tension is higher than ever here, and it has reached a point where I stay in this bedroom 24/7 just to avoid MIL. I haven't been out of this house in 4 months because she insists on doing all the grocery shopping. The agreement when we got here was that in exchange for us doing jobs around the house (like cleaning, grooming the dogs, and small repairs, etc), MIL would pay us a biweekly stipend of $140, just so we can buy soap, shampoo, razors, etc. She offered to pay for ALL groceries. My Father In Law makes $25.00 an hour, and their home and cars are paid off. They can definitely afford this.

However, over time, MIL has shown herself to be unreliable handling the finances. She blows money on her own pleasures (cigarettes by the carton, gambling, dining out almost daily, sometimes twice a day), and later in the week when she's broke, she comes to us to borrow our meager allowance. We have been saving up as much as we can to afford tickets out of here, and I think she knows that, which is why she always finds a reason to borrow from us. If she borrows $50, she will only pay back $30. Its always like that- we get less back than what we loaned her.

We tried standing up against her one time, and she threw a fit then subsequently made our lives miserable by doing passive aggressive little things to make our life here unbearable (turned off the internet which I use daily for for submitting resumes, turned off the landline phone, stopped buying our groceries for a month, stopped our little allowance). So we learned not to cross her again.

My fiance is set to inherit a medium piece of property when his parents pass. Currently the property sits down the road, unused. My fiance asked MIL if they would think about signing the property over to him now rather than him getting it when they die. That way he could sell it now and we could move back to Tennessee, where I have a guaranteed job waiting for me if I can just get there and find somewhere to stay. He even offered to sweeten the pot by giving them part of the money from the sale, as a thank you for them letting us stay here rent free. MIL flat out refused, saying "We have no plans to sell that." 馃檮

So I told my fiance that I'm leaving.

I have a friend who is willing to come get me and drop me at my mom's house in Tennessee. I told him he can come if he wants, (and he does) but that poses a problem... all of my belongings (I mean every single thing I own!!) are being stored at the rental property we were supposed to be living in. It's all of my furniture. Bed, brand new couch, heirlooms from my grandmothers, family photos, my clothing, my appliances, my books- everything I own is there. And the rental property is in my in-laws names, so if my fiance and I leave here, my stuff legally becomes THEIRS.

I don't want to leave my stuff, but I cant afford a moving truck to move it all. 馃槶 I don't know what to do.

Please advise? But please, no rude comments or telling me my situation is somehow my fault- I really can't handle it right now. Just help me figure out what to do from here. 馃槩

UPDATE: We are STILL trying to get out of here. We have been saving whatever money we earn and money we receive as a gift, working our way toward saving enough to move back to Tennessee with. We are almost there, and estimate that by March 2021, we should be able to move safely. I have a guaranteed job waiting for me there, we are only waiting for an apartment to become available (Covid messed that up for us).
MontanamanM
Everything that has been written and said, is truth, and you must do this, head on.
Things can be replaced. Time to get the heck out of Dodge. 馃馃馃
Tastyfrzz61-69, M
Time to hit the road. Take only the things that you can fit in a bag or two. It sucks but what are your options?
Butterflykisses2451-55, F
馃Just breathe.Can you ask your mom for a loan on moving van.Id start there.In laws are sometimes the pits.I would talk to father in law.Maybe he makes sense.Husband should be able to collect disability.that should help.Also look for live in nanny positions that offer use of car.Maybe that would be a viable option.Or somewhere that gives you a company car.
GallantlyChurlish46-50, M
This seems like an example of the things you own really owning you. To make the most of the job market and life鈥檚 opportunities, I think agility is key.
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@GallantlyChurlish I'd sell it all, but I don't think it would bring enough to get me out of here.
GallantlyChurlish46-50, M
@DearAmbellina2113 You wrote that you have a friend willing to come get you and drop you at your mom鈥檚. Maybe I misunderstood what you meant by that. Best of luck.
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@GallantlyChurlish she flaked out on me at the last minute.
firefall61-69, M
Sell everything, then go. Anything you cant sell, write it off as a necessary loss. Painful I know, but you're in a terrible bind, and that's still the best option.
SW-User
Storage container.

Sell a bunch. It sounds like you need assets anyway.

Trade.
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@SW-User can't afford storage, and the only assets I have that would even bring a profit are my dead car and my brand new couch, and at the most those 2 together might bring in about $1,000. A moving truck alone is about $900, not including the gas to get from here to Tn.
SW-User
You have no friends that will pay for the truck?
DearAmbellina211341-45, F
@SW-User nope. I have one friend who is willing to come get me, my pets, and a few of my belongings in her car. And another friend who guarantees me a job at her company if I can find a place to live in that city.

But no friends who can/will get a truck for me.

 
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