I Find Psychology Interesting

To my understanding, he gets a sadness that "he has no definition or uniqueness to his own being. He does not feel secure about his identity." This explains my observation that he likes to identify as other people, characters, or actors from books, movies, comics, etc. I noticed that he likes to label himself as someone who is not him. I ask him if he has ever come up with ways to change the way he feels about himself and he stays up all night trying to do this but cannot. I am really interested in finding out why that is. Why is it that I can find somewhat of a solution to my own identity crisis, and he cannot? Why is my level of confidence and security higher than his confidence and security? Is it childhood psychology? Was he smothered with love as a baby, causing him to become insecure when those smothering actions stop as he grows older into adolescence and adulthood? Was I left alone to my own surroundings as a child, causing myself to adapt to situations that leave me by myself? Does receiving support and love as a child create a struggling adult when there is no more support? Does receiving no support or sympathy as a child create ab advantage in the adulthood when there is no one to support them? Is the unsupported child better off than the loved child in their later adulthood?

The thing that keeps him farthest from feeling that way about himself is laughing and having fun with the people close to him. So my new thought is:
Does he look for uniqueness to gain more personal relationships with others? Does he want to be unique for the reason of having people surround him and praise him? Or is finding traits that define him as a person and being with the people who care for him two separate insecurities?

I am not sure if it was a mistake to question him as if I was a therapist when I am clearly someone with a personal connection to him. I just want to understand things and fix them. I am puzzled on this. Many people are. I understand it is not easy to defeat insecurity issues, it is not an easy fix. There are millions of people who have problems with their self-identity. And I just want to end this suffering.

Please take into consideration that this journal is not meant to praise the ones who are confident, but to use them as an example of comparing differences.

Thank you for reading, please leave a comment if you have an opinion- criticism and positivity is welcome.