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I Still Don't Understand Some People

Sometime I wonder why people offer to help. I feel like people pretend to help only to gain some sort of leverage on you. This one particular situation with my dad (who I have helped and assisted unconditionally in the past) he says that he wants to help me but only on his terms. I feel like he is trying to control my life. If I don't live as he sees fit then he is ready to snatch the rug from under my feet and he all too prepared to say "I told you so." I have dreams and passions in my life that I want to achieve and I feel like they are overlooked. Yes I have issues and yes I have made mistakes but I would like a helping hand that can look past that. He manipulates other family members and gets them to think I am a lost cause and he has actually said to me "he needs to make decisions that a best for the rest of the family and that means cutting your losses." I can't help to think back to the times when things were bad for him and I helped him out of love, even though I probably shouldn't have. There are a lot of things that my dad does that I disagree with but I helped him out because he needed. I never said I will only help if you live your life according to what I think is important. Why can't I get the same respect. i understand having a family member with mental illness takes a toll on the entire family but I still need people who are willing to work with me. I will also point out it's not like I'm going out drinking and getting high (I do smoke pot but that is something that helps me and I get judged for that too by people that don't understand), I needed a place to stay, a listening ear, help getting the treatment I need for my Bipolar/Anxiety/Adhd, as well as things that I have found to help me. I want to work and I was working full-time and taking care of myself but when i hit rock bottom I lost everything. I want to be a writer (I'm actually a grad student for English and creative writing w/ a concentration in screenwriting) and my dad didn't agree with that dream. He wants me live life the way he wants me to and if I do anything he disagrees with he'll manipulate and hold the little support he does give over me and threaten to take it away. I hate it so much because I would never do him like that. He is self-employed and he put our family at risk because of his bad business decisions. I helped out even though I disagreed with his choices and I never asked for anything in return or said it was going to be my way or I wouldn't help. I just wish I could get the same in return. It hurts and makes me feel even worse about myself because every time I start making progress in my life I fall down. Then I am teased with help and support that is merely conditional. I know my Dad thinks grad school and my writing isn't important but I don't think it is fair that my own father would do this. I have even offered to go to family counseling because I know my mental illness affects everyone, but he doesn't want to. All he cares about is how I look to the rest of the family and his friends. I feel like he is ashamed. I feel like what I want doesn't matter. It makes me feel like a burden.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
You and I could be online friends, if you like. I think we might be a good fit.

I am a retired English and Creative Writing teacher. I worked as a high school general subjects teacher in LA's downtown juvenile detention center.

I also spent 10 years working at the state mental hospital. I retired after first teaching adolescents who were seriously mentally ill, then, during my last 5 years, teaching English composition and various forms of creative writing to adults, most of them young males in their 20s and 30s.

All of my students were mentally ill, and all of them had lived through difficult lives and made serious mistakes.

My father was a screenwriter during the so-called "golden age" of Hollywood. Some years ago, I had a couple of my scripts optioned (one by a major studio) but not produced. I've taught a number of people to write screenplays and screen treatments, television series proposals, etc.

I have no current connections in the film world with which I could help you, unfortunately. But I have a world of experience and knowledge about writing and film writing. I would be glad to help and encourage you.

If you are interested, please do 2 things:

Message me and let me know.

Please read my (unfortunately non-fiction!) story outlining my life and hard times. It is under the heading:
I Wan To Know The Truth Behind My Family's Lies and Secrets

You will see that I, too, have had some restrictions and controlling people in my life.

 
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