Do you ever feel like you are a piece of shit for not letting your s.o. find someone better?

I do.

I struggle with guilt over the fact that he could be out there finding someone absolutely amazing..if he wasn't stuck here with me.

I have given him my "blessing" to pursue other women, but he says he doesn't want to. How tf could he not want to? Lol isn't that every guy's wet dream? 🤔

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M

I personally, could find somebody "better": someone who has a nice family(hers is crap), someone with a real job(also crap), someone better with money, someone more ambitious, more like a gorgeous brunette supermodel, etc.

I'm not. She has plenty of faults, but also plenty of strengths: she lets me live my life, rarely says anything abut the time and effort I spend on my musical pursuits, is a fantastic cook and a great snuggler. She knows or has met all of my friends, male and female and makes no demands on my time(I prioritize her). It's the highlight of my day to spend time with her.

Would I give that up just to smash some other girl?

See my point?

Perhaps he sees it as a line you drew in the sand, or a challenge, like "go f someone. I dare you," anticipating a self-fulfilling prophecy if he does. Are you looking around, too? Wouldn't that make sense if he was? What's your end game with this?