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Why do you want to get married one day?

You can happily live your life with your partner without it. So what are your reasons?

For those who are already married, why did you get married?

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ABCDEF7 · M

It's not about living happily. It's sort of social promise, and also has legal relevance in most countries.

When you and him/her value your relationship and want to be considered as couple with some promises towards each other and children in the society, you get married. When you both value the relationship so much that you want the relationship to get a legal recognition, you get married.

It's not just about living happily, It's about showing your commitment to the society & law. When your commitment is not between just two of you, when the whole society & law recognizes it, it is called marriage. If you live somewhere where there is no society and law, like in forests, you need not to marry.

The human chemistry is unpredictable. Someday you or (s)he may not be that much happily aligned to the other, there are ups & downs in human behaviour, mood, preferences, likes, dislikes, attractions, hormones, etc.. Then it will be bit easier to break a promise given to individual without any witnesses, marriage is also concerned about future of children.

Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

@ABCDEF7 in my opinion a piece of paper and a prayer are not going to result in a healthy family. That is the result of commitment. Either it's there or it isn't. Children need parents. Yes, that's true, but they need more than that. They are best raised in a community with many inputs. A lonely child is cruelty and will result in an adult that has socialization issues. Being a parent is more than a marriage.

ABCDEF7 · M

@Tastyfrzz You didn't got my point, one day you feel not living with a person, another day you feels (s)he is a lovely person. Marriage gives you time to think over it before taking a decision.

NerdyPotato · M

@ABCDEF7 You can take the same time without getting married though.

ABCDEF7 · M

@NerdyPotato If society and law are getting modified in that way, it's not good. In few culture and countries, it's still helpful.

NerdyPotato · M

@ABCDEF7 how would it be a bad thing if you don't need a signature to take the same time to consider your thoughts and actions?

ABCDEF7 · M

@NerdyPotato Which law you are pointing to?

NerdyPotato · M

@ABCDEF7 no law. You said marriage forces you to take time for consideration before breaking up. I said you can take the same time without getting married and you said it would be a bad thing for society to allow that freedom. I'm sceptical about requiring a law and signature for people to do the right thing and think it's great if people can do that out of their free will. That's all.

ABCDEF7 · M

@NerdyPotato Thanks for the way you understood the things. I guess there is some misinterpretation.

Yes they can take some more time before they decide. And it would definitely be good. But what if they, or one of them don't want to take any time? As I said,

"The human chemistry is unpredictable. Someday you or (s)he may not be that much happily aligned to the other, there are ups & downs in human behaviour, mood, preferences, likes, dislikes, attractions, hormones, etc.. Then it will be bit easier to break a promise given to individual without any witnesses...

one day you feel not living with a person(and you takes the decision), another day you feels (s)he is a lovely person. Marriage gives you time to think over it before taking a decision."..

NerdyPotato · M

@ABCDEF7 That's true. If people aren't mature enough to think it over without being forced by the law, then marriage is good safeguard.

ABCDEF7 · M

@NerdyPotato Sometimes they are not matured enough, sometimes they can be under some other influence.