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I Survived Domestic Abuse

Wives are not the only ones who suffer at the hands of their spouse. I did my best to get along to be supportive and kind. I was the one what would always blame myself for all the problems. She knew I would never hit a woman and she took advantage of that. After 25 years of verbal, emotional and extreme physical abuse I left and never went back. After I left, I couldn't believe how wonderful life could be. It took a long time to recover from the PTSD, but 15 years later the terrifying flashbacks are very rare. So bottom line, don't always assume it is the wife that is getting abused.

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Gh0s1

Glad you're out of it. It's more common than people think, and its a silent one.
Good for you man !

Caroline259 · 56-60, F

Female abuse of men is very much under-reported, partly because the police refuse to accept reports from male victims.

My husband was repeatedly beaten by his first wife, often needing hospital treatment for his injuries, but the police refused to take ay action against her. They told him it was acivil mateer or that there were no witnesses. When there were witnesses, they claimed they were his friends so couldn't be witnesses.

The sexist scumbags were quick enough to arrest him when she took a drunken swing at him, missed and fell over slightly hurting herself. The police even tried to get the witnesses to say he had attacked her!

Sharon · F

@Caroline259 That's what happened when I saw a woman attacking a man (who I later learned was her husband). Another witness called the police and an ambulance for him. When the police arrived they wouldn't take any action against her as "there were no witnesses". When we pointed out that we had seen it, they said we couldn't be witnesses because we were his friends. I, for one, had never seen either of them before.

bobydob · 56-60, F

hi luv2fish
i too suffered domestic violence for 9yrs (im female tho) my abuser ended up going to jail for threats to kill me...i had to have counselling and had a break down because of this bastard and have been single ever since (11yrs)
i was exactly the same as you...always blaming myself, i suffered emotional mental and physical abuse constantly, as well as intimidation and defamation of character to every one we knew...i ended up hating to come out of my house because of what people thought of me...my car was constantly smashed by him...he used to take all my food from my fridge and throw it down the street and he would call me a crackhead whore at the top of his voice so all the neighbours would hear....i had broken bones black eyes and strangle marks more times than i can remember...honestly hun i KNOW where you are coming from xxxx

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