I Want To Tell You What I'M Doing Today
Today I'm being verbally abused via text, by a man I met at an online dating site - whom I have met IRL exactly one time.
When we talked on the phone the first time, I had doubts, but in the name of "giving him a fair chance" and not being "too picky," I agreed to meet with him. We met at a chain restaurant where he ate a meal and I had a snack. The IRL meeting did not change my feelings about him. At the end of it, I thanked him for the food; when he mentioned seeing each other again, I said, "Let me think about it."
So this morning, he texted me a couple of times. To put this in context, I work normal business hours. I should not have to answer non-emergency texts from people I don't know very well immediately. I was planning, later this afternoon, to politely tell him I'm not interested.
He started sending me a series of ranty, verbally abusive texts, and tried to call me. (I sent it to voicemail. When he shut up texting for 5 minutes, I sent him the following text:
"[man's name], this is not normal.
We met each other exactly one day ago. I told you yesterday that I needed more time to think about it.
You don't get an instant serious girlfriend just because we met one time.
By ranting like this at me, you have shown me that you are not a man I want to date. You don't get to yell at me and say bad things to me, because I don't answer you immediately.
Please don't contact me again."
He has since sent some more ranty texts and tried to call me.
Thank god I gave him a burner number, not my real number; and did not tell him where I live.
What do you guys think about this?
When we talked on the phone the first time, I had doubts, but in the name of "giving him a fair chance" and not being "too picky," I agreed to meet with him. We met at a chain restaurant where he ate a meal and I had a snack. The IRL meeting did not change my feelings about him. At the end of it, I thanked him for the food; when he mentioned seeing each other again, I said, "Let me think about it."
So this morning, he texted me a couple of times. To put this in context, I work normal business hours. I should not have to answer non-emergency texts from people I don't know very well immediately. I was planning, later this afternoon, to politely tell him I'm not interested.
He started sending me a series of ranty, verbally abusive texts, and tried to call me. (I sent it to voicemail. When he shut up texting for 5 minutes, I sent him the following text:
"[man's name], this is not normal.
We met each other exactly one day ago. I told you yesterday that I needed more time to think about it.
You don't get an instant serious girlfriend just because we met one time.
By ranting like this at me, you have shown me that you are not a man I want to date. You don't get to yell at me and say bad things to me, because I don't answer you immediately.
Please don't contact me again."
He has since sent some more ranty texts and tried to call me.
Thank god I gave him a burner number, not my real number; and did not tell him where I live.
What do you guys think about this?
