I Believe Females Need To Learn Their Place In Life And Submit

So here is how I was raised:

If you're in a monogamous relationship, you owe it to your partner to take care of their sexual needs. Whenever they need you to. It doesn't matter if you don't want to, it doesn't matter if you enjoy it. You decided your relationship is exclusive, it isn't fair to them to suddenly deny them sexual release, and the get mad when they seek it elsewhere. This applies to both men and women and same sex couples, but let's be honest: it mostly applies to hetero couples and women withholding sex like its a reward instead of a right.

Don't like it? Don't be monogamous. Plenty of other relationship styles out there.

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SW-User

There are plenty of ways to show respect for your partner and their needs without submitting to whatever their sexual whims are whenever they demand it. Sometimes being a good partner means being intimate when you are not necessarily in the mood, but respect is a two way street and just as partners shouldn't deny each other their basic needs, they also shouldn't force those needs onto each other without consideration of the fact that they might not be in the mood at that particular moment. Sex is an incredibly important and awesome part of relationships, but being at someone's sexual beck and call appeals only to a few and causes deep resentment in others, and sex is very frequently better and more profound when it involves mutual respect and connection than when it involves resentment and servitude.

CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

@SW-User Preach.

nahright09 · 41-45, M

@SW-User Perfectly stated. I had an ex that "needed" me to do things that were far out of my comfort zone.

I did them, i shouldn't have because they went against everything i believed in with regards to how your partner (or anyone else) is to be treated. She was older than me and i just didn't want to let her down.

Couldn't do it more than a few times as it was too much of an internal battle for me. She ended up looking for it other places and finding it while we were still together (without telling me). I found out and that was the end of the relationship.