What would you do?!

If you were married or romantically involved with someone who acted like they cared only after you confronted them about not acting like they careD...would you feel like they cared? My husband repeatedly treats me like my feelings don’t matter whatsoever and he gaslights me and is super defensive most of the time. And then after a huge argument he tries to come back and say he is sorry for everything. Some things just aren’t fixed by saying sorry. There are some things that you’d rather see changed than continue to hear someone apologize for. Does anyone have any advice?