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Am I too petty?

My boyfriend (M29) invited me (F28) to his birthday dinner with his family. He said his mom and sister will pay for him as a birthday treat but me and his brother and sister's bf will need to pay ourselves. Me and him will celebrate his birthday the next day separately too, and i will pay for the dinner and gift. To be honest, im a bit disappointed because I thought when he invited me to the family dinner i will not need to pay. Because if i invite him to my birthday's dinner with my parents, we will definitely not make him pay at all. His mom is working but not earning much so i dont think she can pay for the whole dinner. And the rest are just around the same age as mine. But still, am i too petty to feed disappointed?how should i feel in this case? My perspective is from an Asian country.

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LadyBronte · 56-60, F

Perhaps they don't have the money to pay for everyone. Doesn't mean they don't want to, might just be circumstances. They may be feeling awkward about it too but not sure what else to do. You said your boyfriend invited you, not his parents and they may not have counted on that - plus that his mother isn't making much money. As I said, could be they just can't afford it. If you can't go and be happy to be there despite the circumstances, then stay home and celebrate the next day. It might be taking all their extra money just to do the birthday dinner for their son.