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I Have Been Thinking

Replying to question just now about "friends with benefits" I feel compelled to say whats on my mind.
So if a person knows exactly what they want without commitment how does things turn out exactly the opposite? My confession is I have come to a point where I am considering having a friend with benefits, its not because I am a woman that does not respect myself or my body enough to share this intimacy with someone that loves me but it's because I can't love again. My mind is on a shut down mode to love or affection, the only love I can spare is that which I have in abundance for my kids and close family. I know without a doubt in my mind that I don't need love nor can I love again.
The only reason I have never acted on the way I feel because I know if feelings eventually develope, its not going to be me. I won't want to hurt anyone. Also how does one approach such a sensitive subject with the other person?
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SW-User
Can't help you with that... though I must admit I think all phases pass, so no matter how long this goes... it'll pass.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
hmmm okay 🤔
SW-User
I'm not claiming to be an expert... that's just my observation.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@Djce45: What makes you think it's not just a phase and it could probably what I really want? Is there something wrong with wanting something different?
SW-User
Nothing... it's what I think. I'm not saying it's the only answer, and I certainly don't know you and wouldn't presume...
... it's more like a possibility.
SW-User
@WiseGirl: you have to think of yourself as naked with this person... so see how comfortable you are. Lol... Just saying.
WildHeart · 41-45, F
@Djce45: Let's not discuss this further, I am not sure you are willing to look outside the box in this situation. It would be nice if we are able to put ourselves in other peoples "shoes" in order to try and understand their choices, however if we are unable do so then we may never fully comprehend with the whole situation.
SW-User
I'm looking outside the box... already... from your point of view as much as I can...