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I Have Been Thinking

Replying to question just now about "friends with benefits" I feel compelled to say whats on my mind.
So if a person knows exactly what they want without commitment how does things turn out exactly the opposite? My confession is I have come to a point where I am considering having a friend with benefits, its not because I am a woman that does not respect myself or my body enough to share this intimacy with someone that loves me but it's because I can't love again. My mind is on a shut down mode to love or affection, the only love I can spare is that which I have in abundance for my kids and close family. I know without a doubt in my mind that I don't need love nor can I love again.
The only reason I have never acted on the way I feel because I know if feelings eventually develope, its not going to be me. I won't want to hurt anyone. Also how does one approach such a sensitive subject with the other person?

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SW-User

If FwB is what you want instead of a traditional relationship .. go for it .. but be honest with the prospective FwB candidate. I would imagine feeling out that person's feelings about such relationships .. or a "brave conversation" where you put the subject in front of them are the two most common approaches. Just don't lead him/her on or let them thinks it's more you want.

Even then .. feelings could develop, so be prepared to face / deal with it.

WildHeart · 41-45, F

Now that's where my problem arises I am not sure I could deal with it if the other became emotional.

SW-User

There's only one way to if it's not what you want .. let them down, but end it. If you cant do it if the need arises, then FWB isn't for you.