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I Have A Boyfriend

I did until yesterday.

He spent a large portion of our relationship unemployed, and I was there to support him emotionally and financially as he was in a really low place. He's been coming out of his rut, but as he did he lost romantic feelings for me. He told me this last night when he broke up with me.

I've been on the fence about being with him for a while as it was hard to be the only support system. But because he was doing better emotionally and started working again I thought we were going to be okay and I was starting to feel optimistic for our future. We've spent 1.5 years together.

I ended up going back to his house to pick up a phone charger I didn't need and we smoked and talked for an hour. I left feeling better but prior I was distraught and emotional

I woke up an hour ago and I haven't been able to stop crying. I kind of want to call off work but as I was laying in bed last night, before I went back to his house, I realize I just don't know what do with myself. I might go back to working ridiculous 60-70 hour weeks because that's what I did before I started dating him. How are you supposed to spend time alone? I want to call him and cry on his shoulder like I did last night but I know he needs time for himself to sort out his emotions. I just don't know who else to go to

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ncgremlin · 56-60, M

I find it kind of odd that he breaks up with you when he started doing better and all. You were there for him when needed someone. Now that he is doing better he should be there for you and at least support you emotionally. You did so much for him.

IntenseCookie · 26-30, F

@ncgremlin A part of me feels that was as well but at the end of the day I don't want him to force himself to have feelings he doesn't really have for me

ncgremlin · 56-60, M

@IntenseCookie that's true and I agree with you. He shouldn't be forced to have feelings for you if he doesnt have them but why when he starts doing better he has no romantic feelings for you any more. He should have known this before. I dont know. I just find it odd. Sorry for rambling.

IntenseCookie · 26-30, F

@ncgremlin No it's okay because I catch myself thinking the same thing. I can understand where he's coming from though. I feel like as your mental health improves/worsens you might lose emotions for certain people. I know even when I wasn't sure about our relationship I was confused because I genuinely enjoy spending my time with him and when I mentioned that he said he felt the same way-another part of why he delayed telling me for so long. We've experiences the same feelings just at different times

ncgremlin · 56-60, M

@IntenseCookie yeah I know what you mean. I just feel he should have something sooner and you two could have talked about it. You seem very nice and understanding. You would have been understanding with him. It's just let you know and like hey let's talk about this. Doesnt mean you would have stayed together. Just would have been more beneficial or something for both of you.