I Have A Boyfriend

I did until yesterday.

He spent a large portion of our relationship unemployed, and I was there to support him emotionally and financially as he was in a really low place. He's been coming out of his rut, but as he did he lost romantic feelings for me. He told me this last night when he broke up with me.

I've been on the fence about being with him for a while as it was hard to be the only support system. But because he was doing better emotionally and started working again I thought we were going to be okay and I was starting to feel optimistic for our future. We've spent 1.5 years together.

I ended up going back to his house to pick up a phone charger I didn't need and we smoked and talked for an hour. I left feeling better but prior I was distraught and emotional

I woke up an hour ago and I haven't been able to stop crying. I kind of want to call off work but as I was laying in bed last night, before I went back to his house, I realize I just don't know what do with myself. I might go back to working ridiculous 60-70 hour weeks because that's what I did before I started dating him. How are you supposed to spend time alone? I want to call him and cry on his shoulder like I did last night but I know he needs time for himself to sort out his emotions. I just don't know who else to go to

BlueVeins · 22-25

I'm sorry. 😟 It's good to keep your schedule going when you're depressed, but don't work yourself to death to try and avoid your feelings.

SW-User

I'm sorry that things have worked out this way for you. It seems particularly cruel when you have supported him through his hard times. Still, if the feelings aren't there anymore then there is little else that could have happened. My hope is that he didn't just delay what he knew was inevitable until he was financially solvent again.

There is little that you can do now other than to deal with it. You have been pitched into that place where nobody wants to be and where there is no quick fix. You have to go through it to get past it. Keeping busy is a good idea, but I'd give yourself at least a week or two to absorb what has happened and to deal with the inevitable lack of energy and drive.

ncgremlin · 61-69, M

I find it kind of odd that he breaks up with you when he started doing better and all. You were there for him when needed someone. Now that he is doing better he should be there for you and at least support you emotionally. You did so much for him.