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@TotalMiss discipline isn’t abuse, lack of discipline is abuse via neglect. Ignorant woman you ought not even to speak and spread your ignorance.

eh................... inability to maintain a decorum with any use of (fill in the blank) is abuse.

@sighmeupforthat I guarantee one month with an absolute brat like the one described of any age I could have them acting decent. They’d be happier too, punishment is just the negative reinforcement, you do things like take them to the park etc and let them have a good time and give legitimate attention for positive reinforcement.

@TotalMiss being nasty to the woman who is trying to be nice to her has no excuse

@TotalMiss anyone who can’t tell the difference between disciplining an absolute brat and beating someone is beneath contempt.

@TotalMiss absolutely nothing but ignorance and word games...you heard how the girl acted, you ignore and excuse it. That’s how you raise monsters...

@TotalMiss not at all. I was raising a little kid for a while and her behavior improved greatly in my care. She was also much happier.

I never had to be so severe with her, but she was never that nasty either. She was just wild and unruly and made messes, never hateful or nasty like that.

@TotalMiss surely not, I was sweet to her and only punished her when she refused to behave, and only as harshly as I had to in order to get her to behave. Never used anything but my hand.

She was a sweet kid though, some need more severity.

@TotalMiss if you think that spanking a kid at all is abuse then you’re fucked up in the head...what part of that even sounds like abuse to you???

@TotalMiss you should consider your last sentence, the part before the comma and after, and ask yourself what’s wrong with your brain that you can’t see how they aren’t compatible.

You’re clearly not very bright, that much is very clear, but that much should be obvious. You won’t get respect by being nasty and disrespectful and attacking people who are doing nothing wrong.

@TotalMiss see that’s the thing, you decided that on your own. You also decided in your head that I’m an abuser because I believe in discipline and labeled me and decided it’s ok to be abusive because you decided that I am.

I know you’re not very smart so you might not get what I’m saying, but you have some serious issues to work through.

How fast you are to claim abuse screams that you’re nothing but an angry victim that never got over the abuse she went through and never got your mind healthy again, and you’re the type to take it out on others.

You undoubtedly make life miserable for those around you.

Get help and come to terms with what happened to you so you don’t go around causing trouble. If not for you, do it for those around you.

@TotalMiss the lack of reply tells me I hit the nail on the head.

I’m not an abuser, in fact I try to avoid having to discipline any more than necessary and try to be as gentle as I can get away with and still get results.

It’s not abuse to spank a misbehaving kid. I’m sorry that you were abused, but that doesn’t mean that someone raising a kid and loving them and being just strict enough to keep them acting reasonable is abusive.

From your behavior, it sounds like your abuse was pretty severe, especially being over 40 and still so damaged.

It’s possible that a psychologist or psychiatrist may be able to help you, but I’ll pray for you. Seeing you go from attacking so fervently and replying so quickly to having nothing to say so quickly really made me realize just how damaged you are, and at this point I feel bad for you.

@TotalMiss says the person who replied instantly until then...

I have no doubt that you were abused by your behavior, or that you are still damaged and need help.

I feel sorry for both you and those around you, abuse and its effects will hurt both.

I, however, am not an abuser. I’m actually quite gentle and my personal theory on discipline is to use as little as they let you use to maintain good behavior.

@TotalMiss I never used an implement on the little girl I took care of, as I said she was a sweet kid. The little brat described in this post I can surely see using a switch on though.

I didn’t read your profile, I read your behavioral patterns.

You’re clearly still broken and accusing me with no reasons