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I Wish People Would Realize How Their Actions Hurt Others

Narcissists And Sociopaths... I wrote this to a new friend last night and thought it was worth sharing.

Narcissists and sociopaths abound on ep. It is a great hiding place for them. what bothers me is that those who are very direct and honest are often their target...they bully and manipulate and write nasty headlines, blogs  and stories. they talk in riddles and rhymes thinking that no one knows what they are to.  Then they run and hide behind someone when they are outed...that pisses me off.  COWARD.

People on ep take people at face value. Why? For several reasons. We want to believe the best in people. We are not here for the drama. BUT I found there is a much bigger picture than we always know. it is up for us to decide whether we want to expose ourselves to such.

I don't associate with evil. I tended to believe that everyone had a good side until I was bitten on here.. now I am very adept at picking out the good apples.

Don't get me wrong, i have been fooled on more than one occasion but evil people have patterns if you choose to look.

For me, once bitten, twice shy. What really makes me madder  even more is when people make snap judgements about me WITHOUT knowing the whole story. . When that happens , i wish them well and move on.

I am a straight shooter and honest to the max. You may not agree with me, may not like my outlook or advice, but it comes from the heart. AND I am loyal to the end. Ask my friends.

I find the internet to be amazing because you see the side that a person hides...that is invaluable.
diggler
So true,and it made me rethink my willingness,or lack there of,to reveal my true identity.What infact was I hiding,and then it occurred to me,that I'm not hiding because I'm one of those people that you are describing,but rather because I'm protecting myself from them.So why am I here? I believe it's because I want to meet people like you,inspite of those "cowards" lurking in the shadows,trying to steal our confidence and trust in humanity for their own selfish reasons.We must grasp to hold onto what faith we have left,and take the hand (cautiously mind you) of someone like yourself,and hopefully,you will find that trust in me as well.
akindheart · 61-69, F
beautifully said. soldier on my friend. there are more of us out there.
KassieKat
Very well stated AKH. I think if you have a good heart...that it will always shines through. At least that is my humble opinion. Having a good heart doesn't mean you won't make mistakes...it just means that you're human...and you may mess up occasionally...but it was a mistake...not something that you did with malice in your heart. That is the difference. Intent shows the evil every single time. Thanks very much for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I think you are spot on. :)
akindheart · 61-69, F
my favorite saying is that People vibrate to their own frequency..like attracts like..that speaks volumes doesn't it?
KassieKat
It does indeed. *smile*
sciguy18
Unfortunately, I think a lot of people have experienced this type of behavior. We can try to be selective in our dealings and think the best of people or we can completely shut ourselves off from everyone so that we won't get hurt. That makes for a pretty lonely existence though - both here and in "real life".

"We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy." ~ Walter Anderson
akindheart · 61-69, F
the friend i sent this too said the same thing. and i feell the same way. I live on.
Tuck
Some people seem to think they have "got a life" when all they do is wreck other people's lives. They really have no idea how pathetic they look when they are up to doing it. They think we don't see them for the losers they really are. I remember Tele Savalis asking the criminal at the end of the show, "Hey who loves ya baby?" If we ask ourselves that question, we see what kind of people we are.
akindheart · 61-69, F
so very true. i just hate people who cause all this drama then yell victim. you can always tell a sociopath by the drama they create..
Tuck
Yes. There is a circle there. There are a lot of "drama queens" in the world, of any gender.
habeant
I'm very open and honest and maybe reveal more than I should. But I have to be me to enjoy my EP life. I don't put on a false face, masking my identity and using that anonymity to violate trusts and hurt others. I hate those that do and it's unfortunate that they have sometimes caused some wonderful people to close their profiles. I am a tried and true friend and treat others as I would want to be treated.
libertybalanced
I'm so glad to have come across this, you and others like you are the reason I joined EP in the 1st place. No matter how safe you try to be here, every once in awhile you can still get taken, happen to me, but I'm better for it, so thanks so much for sharing, and you really nailed them beautifully , lol . Have a blessed day !
akindheart · 61-69, F
I hope we can be friends. you make sense and that says a lot!
mommaceitta
great read and truth.
I too have been burned, but i always have spoke from the heart and try to find the good. My Granny and Paw use to tell me, "if you look for a bugger, you can find it". and I have learned if you go for a blessing, you can find it too...
may you have the the very Merriest of Christmas and a wonderful new year..
Tkldpink
Thank you for sharing. I recently was sucked in by a N on ep, until he didn't cover his tracks very well. Upon confronting him, he addressed NONE of his wrongdoings. He just attempted to blame me for his inappropriate behavior.
akindheart · 61-69, F
I hope we can be friends and talk about this. These people abound on here! and the same thing happened to me.
Tkldpink
Would love to discuss this with you. EP is the perfect place for the Ns to find targets and hurt them.
RickiChickie
I'm a realist and never assumed that people here are better than the people you have to cope with in real life. My father taught me early that I better don't trust too soon because he treated my mom, my siblings and me not so nice.
To friend someone here is more or less a game of trial and error.
CrazyWaterSpring
You are the epitome of complete honesty and loyalty. You know who your friends are in RL and here. Now, about what the hip doctor said...
akindheart · 61-69, F
you sweet man..you are the epitome of kindness too.
OkCountryBoy
A well reasoned piece of writing and full of truth. I think over time we all can spot a few cases of minor or major evil goings on here if we keep our senses fine tuned. .
Hikingguy
I think you nailed it on the head when you call them "COWARDS". They are chickenshit in real life.
akindheart · 61-69, F
that is right. always causing problems for others but never taking the blame..sad huh?
mrfixitman
as usual, akindheart hit the nail on the head. gotta love a woman like that.
akindheart · 61-69, F
thank you baby.
rw5453
Good advice all around
akindheart · 61-69, F
thank you. i shoot straight from the hip (when it is working right)
Dreampoet
Well what a pretty hip it is too. Love you sweety...
Dreampoet
I understand how you feel. I have been burned at least twice myself. I always try my best to be sweet, kind and caring. This is why I value you so much, you are always honest and kind to me. I adore you and am glad to have you as my friend. I feel very blessed and honored. Thank You.
miraclerenancer
wow so very well stated,just wow
libertybalanced
Me too ! :- )

 
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