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I Lost Someone Important to Me

Loss, Losing, Lost

I've never really cared for the term "lost" or "losing" when it comes to the death of someone, or at the end of a relationship. It sounds like they've been misplaced, or wandered off into the woods. Whenever I hear it, it makes me want to look under the couch cushions, just in case.

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polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

@GwydionFrost: In death, it's the finality of the loss that hits home deeply.. Others "seem" recoverable..

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

Oh, I am not, in any way, shape or form, trying to make light of the sadness and mourning that accompany the death of someone we know and love. Hardly. I just dislike using a term that DOES seem to "lighten" the finality of the event. I didn't lose my grandfather-- I walk him personally to his final resting place. It was my duty, honor, and privilege to do so, for a man I respected and loved dearly. It was not the first time I had been his legs, but it most certainly was the last. I even purchased his favorite candy (those giant gum drops) and placed the bag in his coat pocket before they sealed up the coffin. As everyone came to pay their respects, The Sons of the Pioneers was playing over the speakers-- the album he played so much, he literally wore the grooves off the vinyl. Why...? Because I brought the music he loved. I paid my tribute to the man. I missed him dearly. But I did not LOSE him, because he is with me, still. Whenever I reach for a gum drop. When I hear Roy Rogers playing. When I go get my mail (he was a mailman for over 40 years). When I smell freshly printed paper (he ran a print shop). When I think of my time in the service (he served in WWII, a decorated veteran). His humor, his passions. Still with me.

So, no... I did not "LOSE" him. He just died. Nothing more.

polyandrym66 · 70-79, M

@GwydionFrost: I have some of those - in my heart - that I visit also..

sspec

@GwydionFrost: I do respect your point of view. 👍

sspec

@GwydionFrost: I had to search to reach these words by you. Hope you don't change your username.
Was this always your approach to life (on physical loss) or you gained it over a period of time?

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

@Silentspectator: I think I've always felt this way. It is both very attached, and very detached at the same time. Odd paradox, but... yeah.

sspec

@GwydionFrost: Yes, it does feel the same - both ways!

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

Hope you don't change your username.

Practically a trademark at this point. No worries there. Unless that's a warrant in your hand... then I have NO IDEA who you are talking about...

sspec

@GwydionFrost: @trademark - I could understand in bits and pieces from certain comments about your popular artwork. 👍

Ahh! There you are ... with those capslocks! Now I know this can't be anyone else but you! ☺

GwydionFrost · 56-60, M

@Silentspectator: