I Lack a Sense of Family With My Family

It's surprising to me to communicate with distant relatives in a better, healthier way than with my close family. My mother was adopted and she's clung to my siblings because we're related by blood. But she's very damaged. I can't speak to her about my problems because her emotional problems take precedence over mine. She listens to my brother and my sister but not me. She says that I'm not as troubled as they are. She never admits that she is a source for my issues either. Her adoptive parents made her feel guilty over the way she rebelled because they adopted her and provided material things. I'm not adopted but my mother acts out and continues their cycles, even though she hasn't provided for me materially for years, and she still lives in a house my grandpa pays for. Why? It's like cutting her out for a period of time is the only way to make my point. She takes notice when I'm not physically there versus when I am. I don't want to live my adult life with her negativity. She's possessive, and acts like my accomplishments are to be shared with her. I never felt like she was a full adult herself. Just had to get that out.