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I Feel Sad When Bad Things Happen To Good People

Most of you will probably know that it was my birthday yesterday and that I spent the evening with my family having dinner. That was a big mistake. The evening went horribly and the repercussions were really bad too.

As usual, my dad and his side of the family have twisted it into something horrible.

I've spent most of this day crying and so has my mum. I can't believe those people can be so horrible as to do the things they do. My mother doesn't deserve this. No one does. My grandad did come to see us too, which was a blessing. He always gives us the best advice in situations like this.

If you've spoken to me, you'd know that I talk about my mum a lot. Most people wouldn't have heard much about my dad. My dad loves his mother and siblings more than he likes us. That's how it's always been, ever since I was a child and how it'll always be. They cause trouble and he causes a scene at home. They've lied and stolen and cheated my mum and they're doing the same now.

The way I react to things like this has changed. Yes, I've been crying but I've also been angry and yesterday, I made the statements I needed to make. This isn't the end; rather it's the beginning.

Some people never change. What I hate more than anything else is the grief my dad and his side of the family gives to everyone else, in particular my mum. As they've been doing for a very long time now.

I hate it when bad things happen to good people because they don't deserve it. I hate seeing my mum cry. It makes me violent. I wish my dad would grow up. Why have children if you didn't want them?

I'll end this with a snippet from a discussion I had with my aunt on the same topic:
"They've ruined my birthday" "No, they've ruined your whole life."

Gaaaaaaaaah (-.-')
lmpulsive
I'm sorry, I know what its like to have family members like that, my mother was just complaining about my uncle, her brother, whose a real dick. It seems like some family members just assume that because someone is a part of their family they can get away with things they normally couldn't with others and treat them in a negative way. No one deserves to be treated like shit, regardless of family. In the end when your in a situation like that all you can do is try your best to be strong for yourself and to know what you never want to end up like and to know to not let yourself ever be put in a situation like that or find yourself with a man like that. bad parents can always teach us one thing, how not to be like them.
SapphicMinion
Families can be horrible. I am sorry they made things bad for you on your birthday. Your father's family sounds very similar to my father's family. I do believe my dad loved us though (I'm sorry you feel yours doesn't) but he didn't love us enough to protect us from his dysfunctional family. The one positive thing about my dad being dead is I don't have him forcing me to be in their life anymore. Some people believe family is family and no matter how bad they are you need to be with them until the end. I believe you shouldn't let family treat you any worse than you would let your friends treat you. My heart goes out to you and your mother.
diggler
Why is a good question. It's a valid question. Unfortunately,I don't know if anyone really knows the answer,and without answers....we're doomed to repeat,aren't we? I'm sorry,not only because your b'day should have been nothing but a happy occasion,but I'm sorry for what your father has done to you,your mother and your whole family for all these years. too bad he couldn't be sorry,and then maybe this sort of thing wouldn't have to happen.
CallmeHopelessNotRomantic
aww I'm so sorry your birthday was so bad. your dad is a mamas boy just like my ex. when this happens no relationships stand a chance. you deserve better than to be a pawn in their little games :( have a happier day after your birthday *hugggs*
CaffeineJunky
I'm really sorry you have had all that shit to put up with, I don't think some people are mature enough to have kids but if they do they shouldn't act like that - especially not on what's meant to be a nice occasion.
honjr1
Happy belated birthday KJK. I am sorry your day was ruined. As you know we can chose our friends, but not our family. Sorry to say this happens to often, where our friends are better to us then our family.
BlackCatBoy
Stay strong my friend. Many hearts out here are with you and your mum. A new beginning, and new strength!
intermsofwhat
Save your mother. Keep her away from those evil people.
CaptainStrawhat
imma have to kick your dads ass!!!!!!!
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Your aunt sounds pretty cool..
Jay04Sch
I'm sorry ?~?
It's okay <3

 
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