Guilty Until Proven Innocent (2/2)

(I made a promise that I would think before I send this part.)

there is a breed of people out there that will take out their past on you. common? yes; but I'm talking about the ones that will use their guilt to make you sympathize and accept them for who they have become (as a result of what they've been through), and what you don't realize is that: they're just using your acceptance of them as compensation for what was taken and stolen from them. once you're drained, they're filled - want nothing to do with anymore and leave. that's what my ex did.

and let's be honest, unless you were born on another planet and have no sense of human emotion: it's happened to you - you've caved, you've compromised; you gave 100%, got back maybe 30% and now it's only you, in debt, paying off the remaining 70% - and they've moved on! with no recollection of what happened. tsk...tsk...tsk...

some people are just, evil. they know it- and all they know is to perfectly craft their evil in the form of "good". some people were taught to accept "what's best for you" as being the only option. and when they fight for the truth, they get manipulative lies, while being forced to accept it as the "only way". you see how reality gets twisted?

hartfire

1. self observation - notice the most minute feelings of discomfort on the inside, notice the moment they arose. What did you see or hear that triggered the feeling? Those feelings are a compass, but we have to learn how to read them correctly.

2. boundaries - don't do something that you're not 100% happy to do, otherwise in will backfire in the form of resentments, regrets and recriminations later, especially if multiple transgressions accumulate. Where there is a difference between what two people want, each can have an independent plan B, or a third creative solution can provide what both need.

3. avoid people who do not recognise or respect boundaries.

NankerPhelge · 61-69, M

I made a promise that I would never forgive false accusation after 1970, so "Guilty Until Proven Innocent" cannot be valid. It has to be the other way round.