I Love Attention
I was getting some attention from my hubby for about 10 days in a row. I felt so happy during all those days.. now he is back to his computer. I am feeling alone again.
41-45, F
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rckt148 · 61-69, M
@IFoundLife you could try cutting the WI FI and stop making supper
Or you might have to say "I enjoyed that 10 days ,please don't blow it now "
You never heard that saying honey ,happy wife ,happy life LOL
If that don't work ,his loss
Some of us have to lose the thing we don't want to live without before we get that she was the things we couldn't live without .
My world will never be the same again ,I admit ,I was pretty stupid
Or you might have to say "I enjoyed that 10 days ,please don't blow it now "
You never heard that saying honey ,happy wife ,happy life LOL
If that don't work ,his loss
Some of us have to lose the thing we don't want to live without before we get that she was the things we couldn't live without .
My world will never be the same again ,I admit ,I was pretty stupid
IFoundLife · 41-45, F
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@IFoundLife anytime ,he is a lucky man
My ex never wanted to work on us until she had kids by another man and now she is raising kids alone ,then they want me to know how unhappy she is ,she is ready to leave him and and she still love me
The daddy is on the XBox and hanging out with his buddies
Broke his promise to marry her
She has to work for phone cards ,he keeps her from her family ,won't let her have a car .
I would love to tell her to come home ,
But the kids would be a constant reminder how bad she hurt me
And I would have to deal with his sorry ass until ,,well forever
I am just trying to move on ,but I wish I had been given a second chance before the kids
She would have got back a different man ,I do still love and miss her
Its so sad we don't know what we got until its gone
But don't let him take you for granted ,
You want some of that twitter time and a weekly date night
Tell him you want your best friend back
I hope it all works out for you
It sucks when all you feel like is a roommate
My ex never wanted to work on us until she had kids by another man and now she is raising kids alone ,then they want me to know how unhappy she is ,she is ready to leave him and and she still love me
The daddy is on the XBox and hanging out with his buddies
Broke his promise to marry her
She has to work for phone cards ,he keeps her from her family ,won't let her have a car .
I would love to tell her to come home ,
But the kids would be a constant reminder how bad she hurt me
And I would have to deal with his sorry ass until ,,well forever
I am just trying to move on ,but I wish I had been given a second chance before the kids
She would have got back a different man ,I do still love and miss her
Its so sad we don't know what we got until its gone
But don't let him take you for granted ,
You want some of that twitter time and a weekly date night
Tell him you want your best friend back
I hope it all works out for you
It sucks when all you feel like is a roommate
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@MsMontgomery it can be heart breaking
I have been asked to talk to other husbands ,some listen ,most don't
Until she is gone ,then they want me to tell them how to get her back
she seems to listen to me they say ,shame they didn't .
Women I have learned are working on making their hearts hard enough to leave a long time before they actually do .
Normally if they wait until she moves out ,most women I know ,
they don't come back .
I totally changed ,I loved my wife more than anything ,but I was in extreme pain but I would have done anything for her to see I was madly in love with her. Unlike the guys I know their wives are trying to talk and work it out ,
mine gave me no warning at all .
One month she is bragging to a waitress we are still on our honeymoon and the next after I see the doctor she is gone ,
I didn't know at the time while I was in the rest room trying to pee for a UA ,that the doctor told my wife nothing was physically wrong with me
I was still "Milking pain for pain medication I needed to see a shrink .
She had stuck by me through back surgery ,but they missed a spur in my shoulder that was cutting a tendon in two ,another doctor finally found it after we were divorced .
I was also awarded my disability after she left ,so much for milking a bad back so that my woman will support me theory, and so I have an excuse to take drugs .
But as to the things she told others as to why she left ,I worked as had as I knew how to be the man she married again ,but she said it was to little to late .
She told others ,who noticed the sudden change ,and she was a fool to not at least give it another try , that I had changed ,and I was a good man ,
She said she didn't buy it , I had changed so drastically ,so quick ,
I deserved an academy award ,Or I had gone over the deep end ,
No one could change so drastically so quick .
It was real ,I loved her that much ,but she had already hardened her heart
She was not hearing anything I had to say ,and her Mom in her ear didn't help .
2 years after she left I found my kids that my first wife had been keeping from me for 12 yrs ( now she was a woman with just cause to leave )
so I moved to the city my kids were living in and fought for custody of them .
I won ,
My ex and I have only spoken once since then ,she had 2 kids ,no man,they left her ,2 of them ,each kid has a different Dad .
but happy for me that I was finally happy
Now she is disabled and gets it ,she is sorry she didn't understand ,
as they say
karma is a bitch .
But I get it ,I wasted 15 yrs with another one after her that was an addict
The difference is ,I was actually in pain ,the one I was with just loved drugs
Thats another long screwed up ,complicated story ,I'll spare you that one .
but I do get it now ,lots of friends ask me to talk to their husbands .
Now I am the one begging my lady friends to talk to them before they give up ,
At least give him a chance to repair the relationship ,
Thats when I get "Will you please talk to him "
I will ,but most don't listen ,a few date nights and its back to the same ole same ole ,,,She has to make him see what he is about to lose
Then at least she tried .
I have been asked to talk to other husbands ,some listen ,most don't
Until she is gone ,then they want me to tell them how to get her back
she seems to listen to me they say ,shame they didn't .
Women I have learned are working on making their hearts hard enough to leave a long time before they actually do .
Normally if they wait until she moves out ,most women I know ,
they don't come back .
I totally changed ,I loved my wife more than anything ,but I was in extreme pain but I would have done anything for her to see I was madly in love with her. Unlike the guys I know their wives are trying to talk and work it out ,
mine gave me no warning at all .
One month she is bragging to a waitress we are still on our honeymoon and the next after I see the doctor she is gone ,
I didn't know at the time while I was in the rest room trying to pee for a UA ,that the doctor told my wife nothing was physically wrong with me
I was still "Milking pain for pain medication I needed to see a shrink .
She had stuck by me through back surgery ,but they missed a spur in my shoulder that was cutting a tendon in two ,another doctor finally found it after we were divorced .
I was also awarded my disability after she left ,so much for milking a bad back so that my woman will support me theory, and so I have an excuse to take drugs .
But as to the things she told others as to why she left ,I worked as had as I knew how to be the man she married again ,but she said it was to little to late .
She told others ,who noticed the sudden change ,and she was a fool to not at least give it another try , that I had changed ,and I was a good man ,
She said she didn't buy it , I had changed so drastically ,so quick ,
I deserved an academy award ,Or I had gone over the deep end ,
No one could change so drastically so quick .
It was real ,I loved her that much ,but she had already hardened her heart
She was not hearing anything I had to say ,and her Mom in her ear didn't help .
2 years after she left I found my kids that my first wife had been keeping from me for 12 yrs ( now she was a woman with just cause to leave )
so I moved to the city my kids were living in and fought for custody of them .
I won ,
My ex and I have only spoken once since then ,she had 2 kids ,no man,they left her ,2 of them ,each kid has a different Dad .
but happy for me that I was finally happy
Now she is disabled and gets it ,she is sorry she didn't understand ,
as they say
karma is a bitch .
But I get it ,I wasted 15 yrs with another one after her that was an addict
The difference is ,I was actually in pain ,the one I was with just loved drugs
Thats another long screwed up ,complicated story ,I'll spare you that one .
but I do get it now ,lots of friends ask me to talk to their husbands .
Now I am the one begging my lady friends to talk to them before they give up ,
At least give him a chance to repair the relationship ,
Thats when I get "Will you please talk to him "
I will ,but most don't listen ,a few date nights and its back to the same ole same ole ,,,She has to make him see what he is about to lose
Then at least she tried .
MsMontgomery · 51-55, F
@rckt148 I don’t want yo leave. He’s a good man. But you’re right, my heart has become hardened. I feel a bitterness that I never did before. There’s just been so much begging & pleading (on my part), that I’ve become angry st myself & resolved not to do it anymore.
I’m always amazed how many of us live in s sexless marriage.
Serously though, I would not want anyone else to talk to him about it. It’s degrading enough as it is. Thank you anyway.. I appreciate your thoughtful reply.
I’m always amazed how many of us live in s sexless marriage.
Serously though, I would not want anyone else to talk to him about it. It’s degrading enough as it is. Thank you anyway.. I appreciate your thoughtful reply.