I Love Attention
I was getting some attention from my hubby for about 10 days in a row. I felt so happy during all those days.. now he is back to his computer. I am feeling alone again.
41-45, F
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Smileforall · 36-40, M
Why alone? May we talk just talk?
minarth008 · 61-69, M
My wife and I have a similar situation. I can't really sit and watch tv, and she loves to watch crime shows, and stuff like that. I typically sit with her during dinner, for about an hour at least, sometimes 2. Then I go to the computer and play a game or two till it is time to crash, which is about another hour or hour and a half. During this time, she does her evening routine, shower/bath, lay out her clothes, and fix her lunch for the next day. I have asked her if it bothers her if I am in the other room, and she says no. I would hope that she is being honest with me. I don't want her to feel alone, or neglected, but I am just not that into watching tv.
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IFoundLife · 41-45, F
minarth008 · 61-69, M
@IFoundLife Not a problem, it always helps to talk with others who are understanding of the situation. If you wish to talk privately, please feel free to message me.
IFoundLife · 41-45, F
Okay
MsMontgomery · 51-55, F
IFoundLife · 41-45, F
@MsMontgomery he is good in many respects. Now it’s been 2-3 days we are back to roommate zone. And now I am also spending time in here., and it’s better than getting bored.
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@MsMontgomery it can be heart breaking
I have been asked to talk to other husbands ,some listen ,most don't
Until she is gone ,then they want me to tell them how to get her back
she seems to listen to me they say ,shame they didn't .
Women I have learned are working on making their hearts hard enough to leave a long time before they actually do .
Normally if they wait until she moves out ,most women I know ,
they don't come back .
I totally changed ,I loved my wife more than anything ,but I was in extreme pain but I would have done anything for her to see I was madly in love with her. Unlike the guys I know their wives are trying to talk and work it out ,
mine gave me no warning at all .
One month she is bragging to a waitress we are still on our honeymoon and the next after I see the doctor she is gone ,
I didn't know at the time while I was in the rest room trying to pee for a UA ,that the doctor told my wife nothing was physically wrong with me
I was still "Milking pain for pain medication I needed to see a shrink .
She had stuck by me through back surgery ,but they missed a spur in my shoulder that was cutting a tendon in two ,another doctor finally found it after we were divorced .
I was also awarded my disability after she left ,so much for milking a bad back so that my woman will support me theory, and so I have an excuse to take drugs .
But as to the things she told others as to why she left ,I worked as had as I knew how to be the man she married again ,but she said it was to little to late .
She told others ,who noticed the sudden change ,and she was a fool to not at least give it another try , that I had changed ,and I was a good man ,
She said she didn't buy it , I had changed so drastically ,so quick ,
I deserved an academy award ,Or I had gone over the deep end ,
No one could change so drastically so quick .
It was real ,I loved her that much ,but she had already hardened her heart
She was not hearing anything I had to say ,and her Mom in her ear didn't help .
2 years after she left I found my kids that my first wife had been keeping from me for 12 yrs ( now she was a woman with just cause to leave )
so I moved to the city my kids were living in and fought for custody of them .
I won ,
My ex and I have only spoken once since then ,she had 2 kids ,no man,they left her ,2 of them ,each kid has a different Dad .
but happy for me that I was finally happy
Now she is disabled and gets it ,she is sorry she didn't understand ,
as they say
karma is a bitch .
But I get it ,I wasted 15 yrs with another one after her that was an addict
The difference is ,I was actually in pain ,the one I was with just loved drugs
Thats another long screwed up ,complicated story ,I'll spare you that one .
but I do get it now ,lots of friends ask me to talk to their husbands .
Now I am the one begging my lady friends to talk to them before they give up ,
At least give him a chance to repair the relationship ,
Thats when I get "Will you please talk to him "
I will ,but most don't listen ,a few date nights and its back to the same ole same ole ,,,She has to make him see what he is about to lose
Then at least she tried .
I have been asked to talk to other husbands ,some listen ,most don't
Until she is gone ,then they want me to tell them how to get her back
she seems to listen to me they say ,shame they didn't .
Women I have learned are working on making their hearts hard enough to leave a long time before they actually do .
Normally if they wait until she moves out ,most women I know ,
they don't come back .
I totally changed ,I loved my wife more than anything ,but I was in extreme pain but I would have done anything for her to see I was madly in love with her. Unlike the guys I know their wives are trying to talk and work it out ,
mine gave me no warning at all .
One month she is bragging to a waitress we are still on our honeymoon and the next after I see the doctor she is gone ,
I didn't know at the time while I was in the rest room trying to pee for a UA ,that the doctor told my wife nothing was physically wrong with me
I was still "Milking pain for pain medication I needed to see a shrink .
She had stuck by me through back surgery ,but they missed a spur in my shoulder that was cutting a tendon in two ,another doctor finally found it after we were divorced .
I was also awarded my disability after she left ,so much for milking a bad back so that my woman will support me theory, and so I have an excuse to take drugs .
But as to the things she told others as to why she left ,I worked as had as I knew how to be the man she married again ,but she said it was to little to late .
She told others ,who noticed the sudden change ,and she was a fool to not at least give it another try , that I had changed ,and I was a good man ,
She said she didn't buy it , I had changed so drastically ,so quick ,
I deserved an academy award ,Or I had gone over the deep end ,
No one could change so drastically so quick .
It was real ,I loved her that much ,but she had already hardened her heart
She was not hearing anything I had to say ,and her Mom in her ear didn't help .
2 years after she left I found my kids that my first wife had been keeping from me for 12 yrs ( now she was a woman with just cause to leave )
so I moved to the city my kids were living in and fought for custody of them .
I won ,
My ex and I have only spoken once since then ,she had 2 kids ,no man,they left her ,2 of them ,each kid has a different Dad .
but happy for me that I was finally happy
Now she is disabled and gets it ,she is sorry she didn't understand ,
as they say
karma is a bitch .
But I get it ,I wasted 15 yrs with another one after her that was an addict
The difference is ,I was actually in pain ,the one I was with just loved drugs
Thats another long screwed up ,complicated story ,I'll spare you that one .
but I do get it now ,lots of friends ask me to talk to their husbands .
Now I am the one begging my lady friends to talk to them before they give up ,
At least give him a chance to repair the relationship ,
Thats when I get "Will you please talk to him "
I will ,but most don't listen ,a few date nights and its back to the same ole same ole ,,,She has to make him see what he is about to lose
Then at least she tried .
MsMontgomery · 51-55, F
@rckt148 I don’t want yo leave. He’s a good man. But you’re right, my heart has become hardened. I feel a bitterness that I never did before. There’s just been so much begging & pleading (on my part), that I’ve become angry st myself & resolved not to do it anymore.
I’m always amazed how many of us live in s sexless marriage.
Serously though, I would not want anyone else to talk to him about it. It’s degrading enough as it is. Thank you anyway.. I appreciate your thoughtful reply.
I’m always amazed how many of us live in s sexless marriage.
Serously though, I would not want anyone else to talk to him about it. It’s degrading enough as it is. Thank you anyway.. I appreciate your thoughtful reply.
IFoundLife · 41-45, F
@SW-User he keeps tweeting. 😡
SW-User
Lool that’s pretty boring thing to do 😟@IFoundLife
IFoundLife · 41-45, F
melbeacher · 61-69, M
You are not alone my dear !
IFoundLife · 41-45, F
@melbeacher I understand. 😕